anxious

 So, the personal injury firm I had hired to pursue a wrongful death suit has declined to take my case telling that they think we do not have a viable case. I called a good friend of mine, a personal injury lawyer, who moved to Israel and spoke w/him about it. He feels that they are "picking and choosing" their cases based on prospective value in ratio to the work they do. He thinks I probably do have a case. His firm (he owns it) is actually a NY firm and does not practice in NJ, but he works with a NJ firm for NJ cases. The firm is actually local to my town so that is nice. I opened up the option to pursue a second opinion to my stepdaughters. I did this so that they cannot come back to me and say either I wasted time pursuing a second opinion or that I should have pursued a second opinion to get more money for us all. They have agreed with me to pursue it. I also invited Z to join me at my meeting with the personal injury lawyer -- this in order to be transparent so she can see that I am not trying to keep her and her sisters from getting their share of things.  I meeting with my estate lawyer tomorrow also. I had a conversation with my friend O, who is also a lawyer. He is a corp litigation lawyer, as mean as they come. I explained to him that I simply cannot ignore my stepdaughters and not tell them ANYTHING, that L, my estate lawyer simply does not understand that. Of course, I understand that he is being the best lawyer and watching out for my interests. However, I really want my family INTACT.  I will be talking to him about some of my ideas for resolution and trying to understand what is legally do-able and what not.   Then, later in the afternoon both Z and R are coming over to "talk" about the estate and the lawsuit. I will listen to what they have to say and based on what they say wil measure out what I will say. However, I plan to preface everything I say with "This is not a promise nor a verbal contract. This is just an idea or suggestion I am putting forth as to how we can deal with this/these issues, etc."  Iam hoping we can talk RATIONALLY and bring reasonable expectations forth. We shall see.  My new boarder is moving in tomorrow as well. This should be interesting... Today, I had a nice Shabbat. Went to shul to pray, then to a friends house for lunch (and had a friend over visiting me who accompanied me). Then we went home and changed into more comfy clothes and then went back to shul for the Annual Sisterhood Tea. It was not such a good event as has been in the past.  (This is the first year that I did not organize it -- I was supposed to but was not emotionally or physically ready to deal with it so I passed -- but I might go back to it next year.).  Anyway, thats my update. I am feeling "ok" but a little anxious over the events to come tomorrow.     

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Dear Rachel, I will be thinking of you today-I am sure that with your determination you will get all these issues resolved.. Good Luck Janine