Another Stupid Brother Phone Call.
This time it was a message left.
To preface, I had called to tell him something, I rarely do this because I hate talking to him but I thought it was important and I was trying to save him some time and possible trouble and money.
He was not there or at least did not answer the phone so I left a message. It was a simple message and did not need any discussion or him calling me back.
his message when I got home many hours later.
"Kevin, are you there? you just called me a few minutes ago. I was in the back yard. Pick up the phone. Call me back."
Why this bothers me: Well as I said I dont like talking to him and I left a simple message that needed no clarification or a return call. So he must have came in from out back and listened to my message and then called me. Why? I don't know. He did nto leave a message other than that he called me. If he had a question, which I'm not sure what it could be, then why dint he ask it.
Besides, I talked to him later on the phone, ( I had been at my sisters house when I called him and wa there all day so did not get his message until I got home later than afternoon) and he did not ask me anything about the first call.
Again I may be too sensitive, that is why I am here, but doesn't this kinda hit you as jsut being inconsiderate. I left a normal message that needed no return call and I have told him time and again I do not like phone calls and yet he calls me for as far as I can tell no reason other than to tell me that he had missed and then gotten my message and I am only inferring that since he did not tell me he actually got the message but I have to assume he did since he called me back but why did he call me back. Damn it leave a fricken message stupid brother that actual give me some information other than that you called.
he does this all the time leaving messages only that it is him and call him back and then has some stupid thing to say or ask that he could have just left in a message and let me then handle it.
My message was this.
Can you bring over (some certain letter) and leave it at our sisters house so I can get it tomorrow, I will need it next week. Just leave it on the fire place (his usual place for leaving things for me). Thanks.
I knew he was going to my sisters today, he had told me, my sister had told me, he had called me and told me again as did my sister that he was going to be there. So I called to get him to bring the paper work I would need and leave it there. Does this sound difficult or need clarification? So why did he have to call me. If he did not know what I was asking then he could have left a message saying so not just, I just missed your call. call me back. Why should I call him back when I already left him the message I wanted to tell him?
He has this thing, a pet peeve about people not returning calls. He gets angry, even belligerent if you don't return his calls to the point of calling you back multiple times just to ask you if you had got his call. It is infuriating to come home and find three messages all basically my brother saying (call 1) Kevin are you there? Pick up the phone, its me, call me back, (call 2) Kevin are you home, hey did you get my message, call me back, (call 3) Kevin are you there? Why dint you call me back. And then the majority of the time when I do call him back he is angry that I hadn't called him back or answered the phone earlier and when I finally find out what he had called about it is something of no importance and sometimes even stupid or he tells me it doesn't matter now that he had already handled it.
He acts as if I'm screening and ignoring his calls. Keith, why don't you just fricken leave a message.
He expects everyone to consider his feelings and return his calls even before you have gotten them or now he has called you and yet he does not consider my feelings about hating phone calls and does this repeated phone calling to my number.
Please, Lord, spare me his inconsideration and hypocrisy.
I'm still feeling good, tho. After the initial frustration, and sometimes infuriating fits of cussing, at this sort of thing, I'm starting to think it is kinda funny. I don't understand my brother and I'm sure he can't figure me out either. Even though I tell him exactly what I'm dealing with or what my problem is, he either doesn't care or doesn't care enough to remember or do anything about it and so continues to not consider my feelings or problems and adds to them. He is a selfish, arrogant, hypocritical, inconsiderate bully and I am doing the best that I can to have nothing to do with him for my own peace of mind and sanity.
To preface, I had called to tell him something, I rarely do this because I hate talking to him but I thought it was important and I was trying to save him some time and possible trouble and money.
He was not there or at least did not answer the phone so I left a message. It was a simple message and did not need any discussion or him calling me back.
his message when I got home many hours later.
"Kevin, are you there? you just called me a few minutes ago. I was in the back yard. Pick up the phone. Call me back."
Why this bothers me: Well as I said I dont like talking to him and I left a simple message that needed no clarification or a return call. So he must have came in from out back and listened to my message and then called me. Why? I don't know. He did nto leave a message other than that he called me. If he had a question, which I'm not sure what it could be, then why dint he ask it.
Besides, I talked to him later on the phone, ( I had been at my sisters house when I called him and wa there all day so did not get his message until I got home later than afternoon) and he did not ask me anything about the first call.
Again I may be too sensitive, that is why I am here, but doesn't this kinda hit you as jsut being inconsiderate. I left a normal message that needed no return call and I have told him time and again I do not like phone calls and yet he calls me for as far as I can tell no reason other than to tell me that he had missed and then gotten my message and I am only inferring that since he did not tell me he actually got the message but I have to assume he did since he called me back but why did he call me back. Damn it leave a fricken message stupid brother that actual give me some information other than that you called.
he does this all the time leaving messages only that it is him and call him back and then has some stupid thing to say or ask that he could have just left in a message and let me then handle it.
My message was this.
Can you bring over (some certain letter) and leave it at our sisters house so I can get it tomorrow, I will need it next week. Just leave it on the fire place (his usual place for leaving things for me). Thanks.
I knew he was going to my sisters today, he had told me, my sister had told me, he had called me and told me again as did my sister that he was going to be there. So I called to get him to bring the paper work I would need and leave it there. Does this sound difficult or need clarification? So why did he have to call me. If he did not know what I was asking then he could have left a message saying so not just, I just missed your call. call me back. Why should I call him back when I already left him the message I wanted to tell him?
He has this thing, a pet peeve about people not returning calls. He gets angry, even belligerent if you don't return his calls to the point of calling you back multiple times just to ask you if you had got his call. It is infuriating to come home and find three messages all basically my brother saying (call 1) Kevin are you there? Pick up the phone, its me, call me back, (call 2) Kevin are you home, hey did you get my message, call me back, (call 3) Kevin are you there? Why dint you call me back. And then the majority of the time when I do call him back he is angry that I hadn't called him back or answered the phone earlier and when I finally find out what he had called about it is something of no importance and sometimes even stupid or he tells me it doesn't matter now that he had already handled it.
He acts as if I'm screening and ignoring his calls. Keith, why don't you just fricken leave a message.
He expects everyone to consider his feelings and return his calls even before you have gotten them or now he has called you and yet he does not consider my feelings about hating phone calls and does this repeated phone calling to my number.
Please, Lord, spare me his inconsideration and hypocrisy.
I'm still feeling good, tho. After the initial frustration, and sometimes infuriating fits of cussing, at this sort of thing, I'm starting to think it is kinda funny. I don't understand my brother and I'm sure he can't figure me out either. Even though I tell him exactly what I'm dealing with or what my problem is, he either doesn't care or doesn't care enough to remember or do anything about it and so continues to not consider my feelings or problems and adds to them. He is a selfish, arrogant, hypocritical, inconsiderate bully and I am doing the best that I can to have nothing to do with him for my own peace of mind and sanity.
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