Another "Milestone"
Ex has bought a house in town and the OB (thanks MNN) has moved to town and moved in. Ex is keeping his apartment for now and will stay at apartment when he has the kids.
So, bright side, kids don't have to live with OB and her 14 year old son. But, I now have to face that my kids will see her and ex together regularly. My kids have to go through this. I am angry and disgusted. I don't get angry often. Maybe this is a good thing - the anger. I want to scream. I look back over the past 14 months and I only let him see my anger once. Once. Man, I certainly don't want to see him now. Am afraid my temper would not hold.
Grrrr.
Angry, but not sad.... this is progress.
If any of you are praying folks, a prayer for my girls as they navigate these waters greatly appreciated...
So, bright side, kids don't have to live with OB and her 14 year old son. But, I now have to face that my kids will see her and ex together regularly. My kids have to go through this. I am angry and disgusted. I don't get angry often. Maybe this is a good thing - the anger. I want to scream. I look back over the past 14 months and I only let him see my anger once. Once. Man, I certainly don't want to see him now. Am afraid my temper would not hold.
Grrrr.
Angry, but not sad.... this is progress.
If any of you are praying folks, a prayer for my girls as they navigate these waters greatly appreciated...
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You and they are in my prayers. Good luck. And congrats on the progress. Keep up the good work. You can do it. You can get through it.
your family is in my prayers too.. navigating OB is my worst nightmare.. but I sometimes think I\'m the only one living in it! I was so worried about my kids interacting with her too.. but all I hear from them is \'OB does this.. and OB does that, and she\'s soo good at this..\'.. blah blah fucking blah.. they really like her.. even my son! he\'s 14 and KNOWS how his dad fucked around on me with this bitch.. and ruined our family.. and yet, he enjoys spending time with her.. its a double edged sword.. I want them to hate her, and yet I want them to move past it too.. I know I should be grateful they have accepted her, but it beyond pisses me off that they have at the same time!
I don\'t know exactly what to pray for.. other then I hope your daughters find some peace with this situation.. as for you Strong.. I hope you do too.. but being in your shoes, I know I\"M not there yet.. I reallly REALLY hate that I\'m starting to feel more and more like the bitter ex.. and my wrinkle lines around my eyes aren\'t helping! ;) .. keep your girls talking.. and make sure they know your home is a safe place to share feelings.. I\'m sorry OB is now literally in your face.. people are heartless.. extra prayers heading your way..
Thx MNN. My latest horror - am I modeling the way I behaviour I want my girls to show? I\'ve been reining in the crazy, want trhe girls to feel secure and to love their dad... etc.
But.... I\'m looking at my 11 yo daughter. who is gorgeous and looks 15... and frankly, I want her to go out into the dating world with a fighting spirit. I want her to know she is awesome and deserves awesome back. I don\'t want her to take shit from any boy. I want her to have the strength to be her own person and to throw aside anyone who messes with that.
I want my daughter to be fabulous and fierce. Clearly I am fabulous :) but I have not been modeling fierce! He\'ll, I. Haven\'t even clearly said \"what your Daddy did was wrong. Don\'t make promises you can\'t keep and keep all your promises\"
I know, I totally over analyze everything!!
Thx MNN - over all your posts i\'ve gleaned lots of useful. Tips!
lol of COURSE your fabulous :) and I bet your girls understand more then you think.. regardless if they grasp the true concept at this point, they do know your separating, and doing a lot on your own.. and dad already has an OB.. which says a lot!.. your strong without having to voice things like that specifically about their dad.. I\'m the same way, wanting to paint him in pinks and rose colors for the sake of my children maintaining a relationship with him.. but I\'ve stopped. I don\'t elaborate, but I also don\'t give negative details either.. I opt to just listen, and prompt my kids to talk more.. I\'m glad my nightmare is helping you navigate through yours a little better.. I\'ll cling to that positive! :)