Another Lazy Day

I think I'm going to have a lot of lazy days while my foot heals. I need to go see my psych tomorrow to refill my Haldol. I haven't seen him in a long time, but the last time I was there he asked how I was doing and I said "Excellent". He then joked "Well, then let's change everything!" I'm still doing well... just for that slight hypomania and crash. I slept until 2... It was noon and I woke up. I told myself just a half hour more and I'll get up at 1. Well, I slept until 2. I'm trying not to take a nap. I have to start cooking soon.. chicken legs and rice. We are out of food stamps, so any new food is coming out of my pocket. It annoys me to no end that I'm the one responsible for extra gas, for cooking, cleaning, having money to spend on necessities when we run out. Geo just spends all his money on camera stuff and blu-rays. I have tried to talk to him about it, but he refuses. He likes having his money. I should ask him to buy me flowers for our anniversary, but he thinks flowers are corny. But I love getting flowers. When I worked at the airline, there was a flower lady that came around once a week, and I would buy flowers all the time. I guess I just have to communicate that I want flowers, even though he thinks it's corny. It's our 9 year anniversary... I don't know what we are going to do next year for our 10 year. I want to take a weekend cruise or something. Maybe fly down to Puerto Rico to meet his family there. I haven't figured it out yet. Oh well. I have a year to plan and save. 

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ann54
ann54

I would be beyond annoyed, I would be out of my mind with anger. geo isn\'t playing fair at all, he is benifting out of your expence, and that is wrong. you are living together in a commited relationship and that means sharing the chores and the cost of living. I would not buy him anything, just for you and that\'s that. f he wont change his mind, oh well, to bad, maybe he will learn a lesson there as you have dinner and he has none. I know it isn\'t easy but I feel you are being used. not giving you flowers, a simple but great gift is mean and it is to bad if he thinks they are corny, you love them. I wish I could send you some flowers, they brighten the day so much. I hope I haven\'t come off as a B.... I just care so much about you. hugsss
Larissa238
Larissa238

Thanks, Ann. We do share the bills (rent, power, car fund) and I split it 60/40 since I make 60% of the income and he makes 40%. It\'s just that I\'m supposed to be responsible with my extra money but he doesn\'t.
ZECILKL
ZECILKL

You are in a tough situation. Tell Geo you love flowers and that it will make you happy if he gave you some.
It\'s hard when two people live together and don\'t make the same income. You are handling it very well.
I like your thinking ahead for your 10th anniversary..
Hope all the resting helps your foot. Take care
JoyceMarilyn
JoyceMarilyn

It is bad when money gets in the way of a relationship. It makes for bad feelings and weakens the marriage. I hope you can get Geo to be a bit more frugal.