Another disappointment...
I met this really nice lady, Linda, while doing odd jobs to make money. We had a lot in common, both of us were Legal Assistants, both around the same age, both were lonely, both of us do odd jobs and both of us liked cats. She was even around my height, hair color, weight, everythign---there was tons in common!
Right from the start Linda texted me a lot. Night and day, I never had a texting friend (or ANY friend) and so I cooperated in the texting. She was in my life every day for the past two months. We even talked on the phone. I wasn't pushing it at all (because of past dissapointments), but thought to myself this could lead to friendship.
Well this past Friday she asked me to do something crazy. She has this male friend, Jimmy, whose mother died, and he had to prepare the house for sale. His mother was a hoarder, so she's been helping him throw stuff out. She told me his mother's house was a true horror, dirty, old, all kinds of problems, and so much junk in there it was ridiculous. She also told me there was no air conditioning, and she's been killing herself in the heat doing this for several days now.
She asked me to help her, that she would get Jimmy to pay me around $12.00 an hour. Jimmy said he couldn't pay anything until the house is sold (is she kidding me???). She said she would front the money to pay me. I didn't like the sound of this at all. She texted me for over two days on this subject. I told her that I couldn't do it with no air conditioning in this heat.
Wouldn't you know it, now I haven't heard from her, and she's not answering my texts? Look, I barely know this lady, only known her 2 months. Guess she's mad at me, but that's kind of nervy of her to ask me to help her so much in a filthy place with no air conditioning and need I tell you how hot it's been here, and the strange way of paying me?
I don't know what I was expecting to come of this, but I'm not surprised.....another dissapointment....strangely I'm not taking this hard, because by now I'm used to it---of course she must have had a hidden agenda to be nice to me---Just another day in life....another downer.....can't trust any one at all...
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Dear Maria; well the same has happened to me since i have been on iternet, But no one ever asked me to clean a filthy house, there are diseases in those hoarding places and the way she was going to pay you she was using you, sad to say that to you. to clean a filthy house like that it would take months,. she must have lived by you. I would never clean a house (ugh) I hve been sick for so long Now I have RaArthritis, alot of pain and stiffness still with asshole walt he charged $50.000.00 on them and $2,700.00 at our vets. All my dogs have died now, I weigh 198lbs now, 5'3 , how he you been ? wht happene with your joj you wrote me but i did,nt know how to to get on this weird thing and all these people live so far from me, I don,t even care no more. I just had a fun fried she was only 40 she had to have her breast out to, i thought we had a good SHE WOULD STILL BE TALKING TO YOU. MAYBEfrienship We did,nt, I had pu a picture up and some women asked her who I was , she says ( oh that is mary ann WHEN SHE WAS YOUNG. I FELT SO HURT. SO SHE IS GONE, iAM OLD NOW AND DON,T FEEL GOOD, AND I WOULD RATHER BE ALONE THE LIVE WITH WALT HE HAS HEALTH PROBLEMS AND JUST MEAN. WELL I BETTER GO I HAVE A HEADACHE.SORRY ABOUT THAT WOMEN AND YOU., BUT IF SHE VALUED YOUR FRIEND SHT SUCKS BEING ALONE AND KNOW FRIENDS, ..... MY SISTER HAS NEVER HAD ANY FRIENDS EAITHER, i HOPE SO MAYBE SHE,LL CALL YOU AGAIN, YOU CAN ALWAYS WRIT ME OR CALL ME, WE USED TO TALK ALOT, BIG HUG AND LOVE MARYANN.
I'm sorry that she acted this way with you, she had no right to ask you to do something like that. It's her loss if she never calls or texts again. I sure wish we lived a little closer to one another, I know you could use a good friend and I could always use another .
Don't give up, there are some good people out there that won't just want to use you!!!
Hi Maria, you did the right thing, NO! I don't think you would of got paid. If she is a true friend she will be in touch & a possible explanation or apology. You don't need takers in your life. Hugs! Brooke
Maria you deserve better than these users. But well done for not allowing other people's bad behaviour to hurt you. Her lack of reply to you (now that you're not being useful) speaks volumes. You're dealing with it well. It's no loss to you and you've saved yourself hard work in extreme heat for (most likely) no pay.
You have our support here ❤️
I'm just glad you saw you were getting duped before it was too late. I've had so many friends like that. They only talk to me if they need something or I'm in a place where I'm making money or have something useful they can borrow (and usually never return.)
Hi Maria! Dear one, I am so sorry that this thing happened. And I'm proud of you for not letting it spoil your day. At least, you know how to pick your friends. I've been there myself, many years ago, when I was a people person. It hurts to be avoided by someone you thought you trusted. And she will most likely give it a go with you again. Only stay on alert. You did right to tell her honestly that the job and pay arrangements are not what you want. I would have done the same. I'm glad that you are letting out your thoughts and feelings. All ahead of me are true DS supporters! Hello to all! Many hugs too! <3