Another appointment today

I had another appointment with the domestic violence place today. I like the counselor, she's nice. She had another person sit in with us as an observer. She spoke up when she had something to offer. Mainly to just to see the session. I had 3 homework assignments. One was a mothering assignment in which I had to let go in some way and let someone else so something. My example was letting my daughter cook a pizza by herself and she also made some cookies too. My next assignment was to work on a list of likes and dislikes. Likes I had tons such as canoeing, hiking, camping, bowling, hanging out with friends, and such. In the dislikes I didn't have much but they included arguements, drama and being talked down to. The last assignment was to list 5 putdowns that have affected me emotionally. I had a hard time with this one as I am big at minimizing things that happened with him. I had listed 1-being called lazy 2- implied that I mess with the kids head 3- being referred to as crazy 4- blaming things on me. We talked about all these and examples of when he told me these things and more. About how I felt and we need to find out the underlying reasons why it affects me. My next assignments are 1-list traits of things I want in a healthy relationship 2-what my view of myself and how I think the opposite sex sees me. I started on the traits I would like to have already. We discussed working on my self esteem and future plans such as schooling and the summer. I feel better the last few weeks although I'm trying to come to terms about not being with someone I thought I was going to spend the rest of my life with. About how I will probably never understand how this whole thing came about. Something else that bothers me is my hand in it.
Who knows. Just taking one day at a time.