Anne Died

My ex-husband's wife died yesterday.  She and I were not good buddies for a long time but we had been able to put our differences behind us and had become friends over the past 8 years.
She was a strong woman - she had to be to live with my ex.  She raised my son when I was unable to do so because  of my alcoholism - and I am very grateful for that.  Don't get me wrong - I raised him for the first years of his life and I did a very good job at that - but when I was lost in my alcoholism - she was there and she did a good job with my son.
Anne was funny, clever, and very good at what she did.  She did well in real estate, she was an expert decorator, she knew her antiques and bought them wisely. 
Anne was one of those people that is not easily forgotten.  She laughed loudly - she loved a good joke - and she was very smart.
I didn't get down to see Anne before she died - I had intended to. 
This tells me to never let a moment go by because of my petty concerns about myself and my security.  It tells me to just do it - and worry about the BS later.
Life's precious moments are far too few to let them go by without paying attention to them. 
Damn I wish I had gotten down there to see Anne before she died - she is someone I will not forget.
 
 
 

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Chris1981
Chris1981

Linda, we\'re so very sorry, and deeply saddened that Anne passed away. god bless your hearts. our deepest sympathy, and condolences go out to you all, at this very difficult time. we are with you all in spirit, and our love is hugging your hearts. when loved ones pass on, i love to believe, that they are in heaven, and at their most happiest, and peaceful place, where they can feel our love. super big comforting hugs. my family and i will always be here for you all, wishing you all comfort, and peace at this very sad, and difficult time. Anne will always live on within your hearts. the very special memories you all have of your friendship, those memories will always bring a warmth to your hearts. sending lots of love, from Connecticut.
deleted_user
deleted_user

Linda, my heartfelt sympathy for you loss, her memory will keep her in your heart.Events like this remind us of our own mortality and what is really important in life.\"Things\" will never take the place of people, let us cherish those who are dear to us whils we can.
Do forgive yoursel for not seeing her one last time, she understands.Take care, may God hold you in the hollow of His Hand and give yoou peace.
Hugs,(((Linda))) from Heide.
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P.S. Excuse the above \"typos\" tried to be fast, too fast.Heide
deleted_user
deleted_user

Hi you became friends and you were happy for what she did for your son...She knew you cared about her, so don\'t feel blue do something in her name, donation to a cause, church, soup kitchen, but do it her name....she would of liked that....We all let time go by thinking we have time, but we really don\'t know how much time we have left.. Take care of yourself and think about Anne and smile.........Peace to you...
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deleted_user

I am and will always be here for you XxxxxX
deleted_user
deleted_user

Oh honey.......so sorry to hear this:( May she rest in peace.
carlyj1202
carlyj1202

Linda, I am so sorry to hear about Anne\'s passing. Please don\'t beat yourself up about not getting there to see her. Stuff happens and sometimes we just cannot do what we feel we should have done.

I am happy for you (and her) that you became friends. I wish that she could know what you wrote about her. You discribed her as somone we would all love to know. What a wonderful and caring person you are.

Proud to call you my friend. xoxoxoxo
BSPUNKY
BSPUNKY

I\'m sorry for your loss. Hugs
deleted_user
deleted_user

I am so sorry LJ to hear that Anne has died, I am sure that your son will feel like he has lost a very important person in his life also.

It is great the you did become friends and for whatever reason you didn\'t get to see her before she died. Like I didn\'t get to see my mother.
We have to live with and accept that there is a reason why we were lead to not do so and there will be something good come out of that decision at some time in the future.

She is at peace now.
LindaJean
LindaJean

Thank you very much for your kind words. The strange thing is that I called the hospital today to talk to her to see what I could bring to her in the hospital. When they told me to talk to the family - I knew what that meant. It didn\'t help that I was her husband\'s ex-wife. Just a few days sooner and I would have been able to say good bye. There must be a reason. Thanks again. lj
deleted_user
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Let me know if I can help
Mutley1946
Mutley1946

I send to you my deepest sympathy. As a recovering alcoholic, if there is anything I can do to help you, feel free to ask.

Peace
Happy
deleted_user
deleted_user

Sorry to hear that LJ! You\'ve just had a rough few months! Wish i could give you a hug!
deleted_user
deleted_user

What beautiful words you wrote about Anne.
LindaJean
LindaJean

Thank you so much you guys - I so appreciate your comments.