ambivalence
My therapist brought up the subject of ambivalence yesterday. At first I thought nothing of it. Then a while after we met, including last night and this morning, I saw how ambivalence has been a major factor of my process. Perfectionism and focus and being unsure about myself etc . I don't know if she meant it that way but she's so smart I know we will have a good discussion about it next meeting on Monday.
Things are good. Sending peace out to you guys.
xx Mark
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Let me know what she says about this because it's always good to have a second pair of eyes helping you
Ok thanks
I'm still thinking about that 'theme' of ambivalence. I'm also thinking about the amount of power I am giving away
over my own life. It's like I keep waiting for her to tell me who I am...
While I appreciate highlighting the concept of ambivalence, "I" also know
I've got to take care of my life - and do it the way I want to as well. I had mentioned the thought to her
about my being leery of living in someone else's judgment and I think just the mix of the two ideas
is making me see, she had a great idea to offer yet I also have to take it and make it my own.
i'll give a hearty hoo-rah to the notion that it is always good to have a second pair of eyes on the job. while staying mindful of the need for balance in all things, i shoot for having more than two pairs of eyes on the job. the peer support network is my go-to for filling the need.
ambivalence is one of the hotter dishes on my own psycho smorgasbord. i have the emotional IQ of a bulldozer. grinding thumper and bambi into the tarmac is a satisfying nose thumb at the pencil pushing engineers who left thumper and bambi off the job specs. just following orders, boss.
the greatest violence one human can do unto another is to disregard them, altogether. ~author unknown
seeking the balance. . .
It's wonderful that you have a therapist who is willing/able to communicate with you so freely and frequently. It seems she is just offering thoughts/ideas for you to ponder and see if they "fit." My therapist often does the same.
Do you view ambivalence as good or bad? To me, it's a bit of both. In my opinion, ambivalence can make us more adaptable, because we are able to easily see and compare the positives and negatives of any situation. It allows us to be flexible in coming up with alternative ways of approaching problems. I believe it only becomes a bad thing when it prevents change. It can lead us to procrastinate in situations where we are concurrently wanting to make a change, yet feeling reluctant to do so for a myriad of reasons (change is difficult, we're not certain how to proceed, etc..).
I hope your appointment on Monday provides you with clarity as to the role ambivalence plays in your life (if any). Hugs.
Thanks so much you guys!!!! xxxooo