Already bad
So I've been home for less than day and my Mom is already in my shit. First she comes in and wakes me up for no reason, just cause she was bored I think. Then I get peppered with questions about her coming to see my pdoc. Really? She doesn't have to go. I tried to tell my mom that I couldn't talk to her about my feelings. She told me to tell her how I felt. I told her that when she laughed at me and got mad and told me I was ridiculous when I told her that moving back home felt like a prison camp was a good example. I understand that she might not have liked it, and I would have understood mad or hurt feelings, but she laughed at me instead. So any way, I gave her that as an example and she said that I am trying to control how she feels, So it's still about her!!!!!!!! IT'S ALWAYS ABOUT HER! Instead, get this, my mom is bringing my stepdad and they are going to push her to help me get SSI. Not that that is a bad thing but I really had some stuff I wanted to work on my mom with and she is just going to march in and do her thing because whatever she plans is more important. I feel like I need to warn my pdoc what is coming her way, and ask for another appointment in the week for her and I because clearly, nothing will get done with mom there. There is nothing else I can do because mom pays every bill and I can't do it myself. have to keep her happy or else. But now I have to be very strong because I cannot be weak around my mom. No hospitals or extra help because she uses it against me. I am so low it would be good for me, but not today for me. So yeah...it's bad.
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Hi, Ivybelle... don\'t let all the shit get you down. I know how hard it can be living with your Mom...I live with mine and she\'s always into my shit. Like, for instance, she doesn\'t want me to be on DS....she says it\'s DANGEROUS! I can\'t even show her what it\'s about because she is totally into denying feelings...while at the same time telling me to share them (do you know what I mean)? So...you have someone out here who kinda knows what you\'re going through...HANG IN THERE :) Lori
Thanks Lori. It helps a lot to have a place to vent. I appreciate that you are going through the same thing. My mom doesn\'t know about ds and I think I\'m going to keep it that way. It\'s a place to run and vent and hide from her where I can still be me! Thanks again!
Dear Ivybelle, I am sorry you are having so many problems but I truly understand, because my mother-in-law moved back from Florida and we live in a two bedroom apartment my stepson has his room, my husband and I have our room and she has to sleep in the living room, but my husband and I can\'t even lay on the couch together because she is here and also she is extremely nosey! She went through some of my papers and read them that were none of her business my husband was pissed! So I feel your aggravation. So now when I go anywhere I have to put all our important papers in our room and lock our door it is unbelievable! My husband and I haven\'t even been married a year yet and she has started to put a wedge in our marriage! She is a royal pain in the butt sometimes! Hang in there kiddo!