All the work!
I know some of you have been through this already, but isn't it frustrating trying to not only get on with your daily life, trying to not cry and keeping a strong appearance, while being forced into all of the work of getting financials straightened out, bills organized and try to figure out what now?
Jeff worked for over 25 years at Boeing and Spirit Aerosystems where he was a stretch press mechanic. He has all those years worth of tools and personal affects at his job. Being a high security employer, I have to wait until they can go through all of his things and decide what is his and what was company property. ( Not that I will know if something doesn't make it home. Security prohibits family from visiting these workers at their job, so I never even saw where he worked.) I know he had a couple thousand dollars worth of tools.
Then to wait on the death certificates to come. It took over a month to get them. The mortuary forgot to send them on to the doctor and they sat on someone's desk through the holidays. I just got them this week. Now I can finally begin to get life insurance and supplimental insurances settled so I can pay for his service. It will still take me over 5 weeks to get anything back. So by the time I can pay bills, it will be about 2 1/2 months since he passed away.
We were only married 3 1/2 years and he made sure he took care of my boys and I. I am very thankful that he did that. But his ex and his 2 grown daughters are emailing and calling asking if I am going to give them money. I just find it amazing how some people can move on so quickly while others of us find it hard to even take those baby steps to get us to the next day. I have tried to explain, first to the ex wife, she is not his wife anymore. If he had wanted to take care of her after his death, he would have done that , but he didn't. And as for his 2 daughters, he told me that they were both married and had chosen husbands who should be taking care of his girls. So, he did not leave them anything. I have mixed feelings about this, but again, he made his decisions before he passed away. So, do I change that? ( We are not talking large sums of money here either. I will be lucky to pay for his services, get some repairs done to vehicles and maybe the house. Put a little in savings. That is it.)
And finally, all the work of trying to keep my senses about me each day so I can work on the business we started. It is hard to stay focused and not let my memories take me back to the hours we shared working together on this. I still have a couple of months until our product is even ready to launch nationwide. And I have so much work to do to set timelines for when it is ready. I need to stay focused.
All the work! Am I the only one who has kept so busy and hasn't really had the chance to slow down? Jeff passed away December 14th and I feel like even though I shed tears each day, several times, I havent' had the time to mourn him.
Jeff worked for over 25 years at Boeing and Spirit Aerosystems where he was a stretch press mechanic. He has all those years worth of tools and personal affects at his job. Being a high security employer, I have to wait until they can go through all of his things and decide what is his and what was company property. ( Not that I will know if something doesn't make it home. Security prohibits family from visiting these workers at their job, so I never even saw where he worked.) I know he had a couple thousand dollars worth of tools.
Then to wait on the death certificates to come. It took over a month to get them. The mortuary forgot to send them on to the doctor and they sat on someone's desk through the holidays. I just got them this week. Now I can finally begin to get life insurance and supplimental insurances settled so I can pay for his service. It will still take me over 5 weeks to get anything back. So by the time I can pay bills, it will be about 2 1/2 months since he passed away.
We were only married 3 1/2 years and he made sure he took care of my boys and I. I am very thankful that he did that. But his ex and his 2 grown daughters are emailing and calling asking if I am going to give them money. I just find it amazing how some people can move on so quickly while others of us find it hard to even take those baby steps to get us to the next day. I have tried to explain, first to the ex wife, she is not his wife anymore. If he had wanted to take care of her after his death, he would have done that , but he didn't. And as for his 2 daughters, he told me that they were both married and had chosen husbands who should be taking care of his girls. So, he did not leave them anything. I have mixed feelings about this, but again, he made his decisions before he passed away. So, do I change that? ( We are not talking large sums of money here either. I will be lucky to pay for his services, get some repairs done to vehicles and maybe the house. Put a little in savings. That is it.)
And finally, all the work of trying to keep my senses about me each day so I can work on the business we started. It is hard to stay focused and not let my memories take me back to the hours we shared working together on this. I still have a couple of months until our product is even ready to launch nationwide. And I have so much work to do to set timelines for when it is ready. I need to stay focused.
All the work! Am I the only one who has kept so busy and hasn't really had the chance to slow down? Jeff passed away December 14th and I feel like even though I shed tears each day, several times, I havent' had the time to mourn him.
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