I am having a bad day today. Fighting with my son and I think it's about time to call his P.O. and tell him he needs to find another place to stay, but I may be over reacting. He is 18 and is living here because they would not allow him to go to the same apartment he was living in because it was a bad environment. Today he asked me if I would tell the P.O. that I think living in another specific city would be better for him. I told him I couldn't say that because I don't know if it would be good for him or not. It depends on wether or not he takes advantage of the opportunities to do good or the opportunities to do bad. Basically he got mad and started saying I thought he was going to get into gangs, then he kept going on about things that were not even the point of the conversation and stormed out saying "I'm going out to join a gang and do some violence." I don't know why I'm the one feeling bad about the situation. I have done so much to help him through all his problems and I'm the one always getting sh** on. I'm tired of being stressed and sad because of my kids. They're both adults and my son in particular needs to grow up.
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you sure your talking about your son . sounds like me and my son . but i started with mine at 13 . now he is 18 and in his own place . i refused to let him bring me down.hang in there i know it not easy by no means
There must be a full moon cause me and my son got into it today too. He\'s almost 18 and has ADD and does ok most the time. But seems like every 4-5 mos something happens and he is just in a horrible mood and talks terrible to me. I\'m the one who is always in his corner and don\'t deserve the way he treats me. I\'ll be praying for you.
Hey Honey,
Go easy on yourself......Don\'t take the burden of your son on yourself too much.
I know....easier said than done....as mom\'s we breathe every difficulty our kids go through....feel every heartache and suffer all their pain with them and just want to protect them, even from themselves.....take a deep breath and let him get on with the process of growing up....a hard...hard time for everyone....you and your son.....Be there for him by all means, but know the choices he makes are his choices and his consequences to face....Don\'t doubt yourself...you are a great mom,and are doing all you possibly can.....You will come through this....God strengthen and keep you and cause his face to shine upon you ... love and blessings xxx
Hi Missi,
Sorry to hear your going through the mill right now. Its a hard life trying to keep a teenager on the straight and narrow, boys in particular.
Their is so much peir pressure on them these days.
He probably does not realise that it is YOU keeping him together.
You want to keep him home so you know he is safe and behaving, unfortunatley it is not until later you will be rewarded, when he has grown out of this stage he will appriciate all that you have done.
Its a thankless task being a parent.
All I can say is stick to your guns. If he is adamant he wants to move away ( maybe for good reason, that you might not understand ) then perhaps its worth trying. You will of course pick up the pieces if it does not work out because that is what you do....
I never really grew up until I left home...was never any real trouble unlike my little brother who was the black sheep of the family, sadly he is gone and I will always regret not being a bigger part of his life.. he needed us but was just too out of control.
Missi hun, please let things calm down, speak to him when you both can be rational. A move away from the environment he is in might be a good thing, you cant shieled him forever, but you can always be their for him....
Sometimes we have to let them make their own way and find out just how hard things can be.
Keep your chin up.... He obviously wanted to upset you and knows how to do it... Kids are real proffesional at that..
So Calm.... talk and find a solution...
Help him by letting him help himself..
Do feel for you and wish you well...
I know its hard...
Thats why were here...
Love ya
Buzz xxx
Your son is being a punk. Call the PO and do what you have to do. He\'ll come around.