Well, I think my "break-up" with food is going pretty well.  I did eat a sandwich after I had already eaten dinner. However, I had a conflict with my son and it normally would have gone way worse in the overeating department. Maybe I'm finally getting a handle on it. I am realizing how much food really is like an abusive lover. Just like when you break up with someone thats no good for you, then they call you and you fall back into that old habit. Food kept calling me last night, but I ignored it a good portion of the evening. Then it got to the point where I thought I might be physically hungry, but was having trouble discerning if it was actual hunger or something else. That nagging feeling kept calling me to eat. I ended up making a healthy sandwich and that's it. Another day I might have binged everything in the house, so I don't feel too badly. It's improvement, not perfection I'm striving for. I did do 50 steps on the treadmill. I started out only being able to do 25 steps. (I envy those people who can jog on a treadmill for like 30 minutes and more - someday) Anyway, back to the breaking up with food thought. I'm not sure how this sounds, but when I get that feeling like food is calling me, I really am seeing it kinda like a 'booty call'. You know, you broke up with the abuser, but then he calls cuz he wants to use you, and you shamelessly give in. I guess that's kind of a gross picture to be relating to food, but that's kind of how it feels. When I let food abuse my body, I'm disrespecting myself. I also need to recognize that food is an inanimate object and it really doesnt have an evil plot to destroy me. It only has the power I give it. I am the one who puts the food in my mouth. It doesn't chase me down and overpower me and jump in my mouth. (although, sometimes it feels that way). I do it myself. How do I take back control from something that never really had control?

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Good work on becoming more aware of your relationship with food. I had the same kind of abusive relationship too. The way I was truely able to take back my control was through gastric bypass. It\'s the only thing that has ever killed the hunger monster in me. I am most thankful that I am not so controlled that I\'m not sitting there counting pizza slices in my head to make sure I get a certain amount (I would literally think, oh no, there\'s only 3 pieces left). I used to do that at most every meal. Keep up the great work!
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missina,
I\'m so glad to have found you to share this journey with. I feel exactly as you do, and I am definitely breaking up with food as we speak. I am 1 week away from my surgery (June 16), and am on the pre-op eating plan. Sort of a shock, but I\'m hanging in so far. Actually, I\'m pretty proud of myself for actually sticking to it! Wonders never cease!
You can take back the control. Just work at it hour by hour if you have to. YOU CAN DO IT!
By the way, I tried Overeaters Anonymous too. Didn\'t work for me at all, either. But I still try to use some of the affirmations and philosophy. Good positive stuff. You can never have enough of that.
Hang in there, you\'ve come to the right place for support and understanding. We\'re always here.
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You\'re a very supportive, caring person...it shines thru in your feedback and thoughtful perspective: I\'m really glad we\'re here together. Good job doubling your steps on the treadmill!
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YAAAAAAAY! I\'m celebrating with you the 50 steps. There have been so many days I wasn\'t willing to do 1 step....50 is wonderful.

Day by day....we break down the attachment we have had to overeating, and grab on to the part of ourselves that is conscious of what we are eating and is willing to make healthy choices. That part of me seems to have been bound and gagged for quite a long time LOL

I got a chuckle from the booty call idea....and it is so true that it is like there is that part of us that wants to overeat regardless of the pain and disastrous consequences it creates for ourselves as a whole. Like a \"player\", it persists in taking its pleasure without caring about the destruction it causes to the other person.

The more I think about this analogy of yours, the more I like it! It is time for me to start protecting myself from the ravages of overeating...even if I am protecting myself from the part of me that is the addictive overeater.

Great journal...I got a lot out of it!

Hugs, Truth