It's been 6 weeks since PJ took his life, I'm not so sure that this time thing works.  Sometimes it feels like just yesterday that he did this and at others it feels like forever.  A friend of mine saw a thing written by a 16 yr. old girl in "Dear Abby", saying how she had accused her mothers boyfriend of raping her and how he had hung himself, and now she feels guilty, sounds just like what happened to my son, and maybe it is her and maybe that's why she feels guilty because she knows she lied.  I hope she lives with that guilt for the rest of her life and she's miserable forever, because that's what she's done to me.  I honestly don't think I could ever forgive her, I almost wish that her and her mother would get in touch with me so I could tell them exactly what I think of them, not that it would do any good, but who knows.  What's wrong with some of these young girls who go around accusing people of raping them, just to get them out of their lives, isn't there easier ways, and what happens when if the person accused, is found innocent, if they're lucky, what recourse do they have, unfortunately my son doesn't have that option.  How do I find closure to this, if at all?  I think I've forgotten what being normal is.  And some of the really stupid questions people ask, like, "are you over this yet?"  I mean come on, that really is stupid, how do you get over your son hanging himself?  I wish I knew, I wish there was some magic pill to make it all go away.

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biowoman
biowoman

If you find the magic pill there are several hundred moms here want one! Honey...six weeks is not long...and certainly not long enough to truly feel better. I hate to tell you the truth...but it is years. And, even after (two years for me) it takes the smallest thing to stir the emotions up again. The good news is that the lows aren\'t as low and don\'t seem to last as long...but you will have a hole in your heart forever. There are joys that will return and new things that are exciting...it is just that you miss your child...forever. And btw...people don\'t know how this feels, so they are clueless...love to you...Karen