9/10/13
Sigh, an odd day. an emotional day. Was settling in to work this morning when I got a text from ex. I'd been expecting one. If not this week, then next week when he has his birthday. It's been right at 2 weeks since we'd had any contact and it's seldom longer than that. Anyway, he sent me a text to tell me his cat got hit by a car. Awhile back he'd adopted a cat. and then got a second one to keep it company. At first he kept them inside but not long ago he started putting them outside. I never did see the orange one around anymore, but the black/white one tended to stay in the front yard with the dogs. It would sometimes go across the street he said, but I know whenever I was there it was in the front yard. I assumed it was the black/white one that got hit, but could have been the other one. He said he was standing right there-I guess in the driveway-when it happened. My guess is the cat was across the street and when he saw my ex, he came running across the street. We had a stray adopt us once and every afternoon when she heard my car she'd come tearing across the street. I was always afraid for her. Ex said the car didn't even slow down or try to miss the cat. Sigh... said after it was hit, it crawled over to him and died. God, every time I see that it puts me in tears. not sure I will ever get the picture out of my mind. He was pretty upset about it, but you know I knew it would happen. You can't let your pets run around like that and expect them to live very long. Cars, big dogs, snakes, all kinds of dangers out there for them. But, I didn't say that. Just told him I was sorry to hear about it.
He then told me he'd gotten a big Scooter. A Honda Goldwing 600 I think. i asked how he could do that cause we are in bankruptcy. no way he could get credit. He said he traded his motorcycle to his minister for it. Said he's planning to take it up to Arkansas for the Diamond Festival in October. He'd told me a good while back that he and his buddy were going to be vendors at the fest, but that has changed for whatever reason. He's just planning to ride up there for the festival. Of course knowing him, this could change. By the time of the festival he may have even traded the scooter for something else. Oh well, not my prob. He asked how I was doing cause he had not heard from me in awhile. I was somewhat flabbergasted because in the first place the phones, etc run both ways. I don't get in touch with him unless there's a valid reason. But I knew he was going to say that about not hearing from me. I just told him I was fine and nothing out of the ordinary going on. (KNOCK ON WOOD!) That was end of text conversation.
A little while later I got an email from my eldest niece. Her mother was crossing the street earlier and got hit by a car. My sister. One year younger than me. Sigh...I almost stopped breathing. Luckily, she was not hurt badly, relatively speaking. Cut knee, head wound that needs work (I have no idea what that means), small back fracture that they don't think will be a permanent problem. They are keeping her overnight for observation. She drives me insane and pisses me off on a regular basis. I thank God we don't live in the same town. But, she's my sister. The closest relative I have in so many ways. With my mother and husband gone, she's the one who knows me best. My brothers don't keep in touch with me at all. So, yeah..I'm a bit upset. I texted ex about what happened and he asked me to let him know. so when I found out what little I know, I sent the info to him, but didn't hear back, which is what I expected.
Woman I work with is going in the hospital today for surgery. Will probably be off at least a week-10 days. Lots of stuff I need to get done, so stress level is high between one thing and another. But I have therapy in the morning so that should help.
No news about #4. Ex doesn't volunteer it and I don't ask. Last time I was at the house which was maybe a month ago, the house was a mess. Don't think he'd done any more work on it. Certainly NOT a kind of situation I would want to bring my next spouse in to. So, it looks like his focus has shifted, if only the slightest bit. THAT is not unusual, Something would catch his interest and he's go at it full blast. Then, after a while, his focus would start shifting ever so slightly to something else. I'm beginning to think he's never going to get the house in shape for her like he'd planned and that she's never going to come. Originally she was supposed to finish her classes in June and then move here. Then he told me her classes got "pushed back" and it would be September at the earliest. Well, the classes getting "pushed back" thing never made sense to me. At one point he'd told me they were not really sure when because it depended on how many classes she needed to take. That makes no sense. if you are taking classes for certification or a degree of any kind, you know exactly how many/which classes you need to take. At any rate, it's now the middle of September...In a few weeks they will have been engaged a year and still living hundreds of miles apart. I don't understand any of this, but I don't need to understand so..
Ok-I know this is long and boring so I'm going to leave with a funny story. My brother is getting married in May 2014. First marriage and he is so excited. They have a private Facebook page that is only open to the people who will be invited to the wedding. So, on Sept 5th he posted that it is 8 months away and that they had the STDs (save the date) and invitations. I told him "Wait a minute. Nobody told me nothing about no STDs! You know I am deathly allergic to penicillin. I'm not sure about this STD stuff." He laughed. Later, I remembered the other people who have access to that page. The bride's family, whom I've never met. My younger nieces (11 and 16). And...my uncle/aunt. He is a minister. And is going to be doing the wedding...hahaha...I mentioned he's a minister, right? snicker...
He then told me he'd gotten a big Scooter. A Honda Goldwing 600 I think. i asked how he could do that cause we are in bankruptcy. no way he could get credit. He said he traded his motorcycle to his minister for it. Said he's planning to take it up to Arkansas for the Diamond Festival in October. He'd told me a good while back that he and his buddy were going to be vendors at the fest, but that has changed for whatever reason. He's just planning to ride up there for the festival. Of course knowing him, this could change. By the time of the festival he may have even traded the scooter for something else. Oh well, not my prob. He asked how I was doing cause he had not heard from me in awhile. I was somewhat flabbergasted because in the first place the phones, etc run both ways. I don't get in touch with him unless there's a valid reason. But I knew he was going to say that about not hearing from me. I just told him I was fine and nothing out of the ordinary going on. (KNOCK ON WOOD!) That was end of text conversation.
A little while later I got an email from my eldest niece. Her mother was crossing the street earlier and got hit by a car. My sister. One year younger than me. Sigh...I almost stopped breathing. Luckily, she was not hurt badly, relatively speaking. Cut knee, head wound that needs work (I have no idea what that means), small back fracture that they don't think will be a permanent problem. They are keeping her overnight for observation. She drives me insane and pisses me off on a regular basis. I thank God we don't live in the same town. But, she's my sister. The closest relative I have in so many ways. With my mother and husband gone, she's the one who knows me best. My brothers don't keep in touch with me at all. So, yeah..I'm a bit upset. I texted ex about what happened and he asked me to let him know. so when I found out what little I know, I sent the info to him, but didn't hear back, which is what I expected.
Woman I work with is going in the hospital today for surgery. Will probably be off at least a week-10 days. Lots of stuff I need to get done, so stress level is high between one thing and another. But I have therapy in the morning so that should help.
No news about #4. Ex doesn't volunteer it and I don't ask. Last time I was at the house which was maybe a month ago, the house was a mess. Don't think he'd done any more work on it. Certainly NOT a kind of situation I would want to bring my next spouse in to. So, it looks like his focus has shifted, if only the slightest bit. THAT is not unusual, Something would catch his interest and he's go at it full blast. Then, after a while, his focus would start shifting ever so slightly to something else. I'm beginning to think he's never going to get the house in shape for her like he'd planned and that she's never going to come. Originally she was supposed to finish her classes in June and then move here. Then he told me her classes got "pushed back" and it would be September at the earliest. Well, the classes getting "pushed back" thing never made sense to me. At one point he'd told me they were not really sure when because it depended on how many classes she needed to take. That makes no sense. if you are taking classes for certification or a degree of any kind, you know exactly how many/which classes you need to take. At any rate, it's now the middle of September...In a few weeks they will have been engaged a year and still living hundreds of miles apart. I don't understand any of this, but I don't need to understand so..
Ok-I know this is long and boring so I'm going to leave with a funny story. My brother is getting married in May 2014. First marriage and he is so excited. They have a private Facebook page that is only open to the people who will be invited to the wedding. So, on Sept 5th he posted that it is 8 months away and that they had the STDs (save the date) and invitations. I told him "Wait a minute. Nobody told me nothing about no STDs! You know I am deathly allergic to penicillin. I'm not sure about this STD stuff." He laughed. Later, I remembered the other people who have access to that page. The bride's family, whom I've never met. My younger nieces (11 and 16). And...my uncle/aunt. He is a minister. And is going to be doing the wedding...hahaha...I mentioned he's a minister, right? snicker...
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