why cant my father just accept me as i am?!?!? im not perfect and im sorry about that.....yesterday, my parents were going for a walk (and my ed doesnt like to sit around while others are exercising) so i said that i wanted to accompany them on the 2 mile treak...and my dad made a scoffing noise and muttered something under his breath....he didnt want me to go...am i that horrible of a person that my own father doesnt wanna be around me!???? and y is he the only one who treats me like this....and y cant i just accept this and move on?so while i was on the walk...my legs got cold....and the yoga pants i was wearing keep brushing up against my legs.....and they started itching....so i kept itching my legs...and everytime i itched them...it felt good while i was scratching...but afterwards when i stopped id need to start again....so suddenly i was so miserable i yanked my pant legs up and told my parents how itchy i felt.....and i looked at my thighs...i had scratched them something horrible....red scratch marks all over....i have long nails....i seriously was about to start bleeding.....and my dad just looked at me like i was nuts....no compassion or ne thing.....bet he decided in his head that this was an ED thing....which it wasnt! i went home and showed my sister who immediately rubbed my legs down with aloe vera and told me that her legs do this when they get dry...and taht all my legs need is some intensive lotion....so today my legs are better..but i can still see a few scratch marks...thank god for my sister....and boo hiss my dad!another thing he did without doing to my face was that he told my sister that he was disappointed that she didnt go to the pig roast/ my cousins grad party the other night....she was like i worked til 9 dad! and he was like well it would have been nice if u had made a showing after work.....this made me realize that he wasnt disappointed that i didnt show up...i worked til 5 taht day.....and not a thing was said about me not appearing at the party....i guess he was glad that i didnt go..........
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Wow.... I\'m really sorry you have to deal with that! Sounds like your dad needs a dose of compassion and understanding. I\'m glad you have your sister though!
I hate how people think that everything has to do with ED. It\'s like no I do have normal every people problems too.
i\'m srry about yuur trouble wit yuur dad.
and its terrible he doesnt accepted yuu for who yuu are.
and yuu shouldnt be srry yuur not perfect!!no one is..and iff yuu thinkk yuur ed makes yuu \"less perfect\" yuu have very wrong.
That\'s terrible! I hope your dad soon realizes how much he is hurting you, it\'s not nice to have someone you love act that way. Maybe you should tell him how u feel...hope your doing better soon!!
Of course you can\'t just get over the fact taht your dad doesn\'t accept you. Sounds like you gotta great sis though, thats awesome.
...and I do want to, just something takes over when that feeling takes over.
Peace
hm, yeah, sounds like something is up with your dad. it may be hard, but the best thing is to just confront him.
it is hard to not be accepted. i am sorry you had to go through that. you may not be totally perfect but to me you are darn perfect. chin up my friend and know that God and i care about you very much. try to have a great day.
his attitude has nothing to do with you. he\'s scared. i wouldn\'t want my child walking 2 miles with me if she had a history of being hospitalized for an eating disorder either! my family doesn\'t get too upset when i miss a family function (especially when i\'m at the point of no return...). it\'s not pleasant to have a dying person around.
I think your Father doesn\'t know how to handle that you have a ED. He may not truly understand. Neil\'s Mother does not understand Why I couldn\'t just stop, or Why I would even want to do drugs. She says she doesn\'t understand addiction and basically said it was for the weak. Which of course, we know is not true.
I think you either need to come out full on and address to your Dad how you truly feel about things in a calm manner. If he fails to respond it\'s really not your fault, and you\'ll have to keep trying to help him understand or else just leave it be, and keep the people that do understand and support around you.
I don\'t really have a Father. I have one, but he\'s better off where he is because he doesn\'t understand, and it only makes it harder for me when I think to myself, why isn\'t my Father being my Father?
And for the party thing.. That was really immature of him. Like I said, he doesn\'t understand, so what people understand they fear hence he most likely didn\'t want you there because of how he fears you and the ED. I don\'t mean to be harsh, but it\'s not either of your faults, it\'s a scarred Father who doesn\'t understand, and you, who struggles with an ED.
I hope this helps. Love ya.
Aww im so sorry you have to go through all this. I think you should sit your father down & talk to him. Tell him that this is a hard time for you & he isnt making it any easier. Tell him that you need is support to get better.& just give him time. I dont kno how much he needs, but he\'s scared of your ed. He doesnt want to lose you & the fear of you having this disorder, scares him. Try not to take things personnal. He still loves you. Just try talkin to him.
I hope it helps!
xoxo, with lots of love.