8/26/2013
Sent ex email saying we cannot have any more "encounters". No more bootie calls. Sent another man (who has been married for 6 months) a message telling him-as I've always told him-no, he cannot come spend the night with me, I am not going to have sex with him, and he does not have to and is not going to "have me" and to leave me the hell alone. My dance card is totally empty---just as it should be...
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You did good to tell them both no way can they visit. Now you just have to stand firm on that decision with your ex and I know you can do that.
usually, what happens is ex calls me about mail, or something he wants to show me at the house. A legitimate thing, but he has more on the agenda sometimes. He agreed with my email as I knew he would. We both tend to want the other one to be the one who says no. I don\'t tend to go to the house on my own. If I do, its to play with the dogs in the front yard when he\'s not there. The other guy is a jerk plain and simple. I\'ve never met him in person. he\'s a friend of a friend on facebook. We got to chatting almost a year ago about the cruise I was getting ready to take. He was funny and it was fun to talk to him. And that was it as far as I was concerned. I don\'t do flings, one night stands, etc. Never have. But, in retrospect I can see that I let the joking too far and go on for too long. I never ever led him to believe that this was something I would be interested in doing...even if he wasn\'t married. Anyway, he got mad and unfriended me before I had a chance to block him. We will NOT be talking anymore. I have him blocked on my cell too, As for the ex, we will just stay away from each other. He said he wants to do the right thing, too. There was no anger or anything on his part. We just need to stay away from each other...I still need to tell my therapist because I\'ve never told her about all the bootie calls with my ex...Thanks, Trish!