Venting
I need to vent. I am very to close Catie's mom, sister, and her sister in law. I feel they understand the loss of her better than anyone. My folks on the other hand do not. They have been asking when I'm going to start looking for a new job. Saying I should move to the west coast to be closer to the family. Really? Its been ten weeks since my whole world was thrown on its head and they want to me to think about moving? Moving from my support and from my love? It really bothers me but they just dont understand at all. I will not do anything I am not ready to do. I have spent a lot of time with her family and I consider them to my family now. I just wish I had the same support and understanding for my own flesh and blood that I have from my loves family.
I have facebook friend that just does not get it. I am not ready to hang out. I don't want to go out with you. I don't want to hang with your son. I'm trying to be nice but I really dont want to do other than just be polite. It really upsets me when someone says " We dont have to talk about Catie". Why would I not want to talk about the love of my life? If you don't know what to say then don't say anything. Just very annoyed today. The one person who could make me feel better on a day like this is gone and its so hard without her.
I have facebook friend that just does not get it. I am not ready to hang out. I don't want to go out with you. I don't want to hang with your son. I'm trying to be nice but I really dont want to do other than just be polite. It really upsets me when someone says " We dont have to talk about Catie". Why would I not want to talk about the love of my life? If you don't know what to say then don't say anything. Just very annoyed today. The one person who could make me feel better on a day like this is gone and its so hard without her.
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I totally understand your feelings. Few people who haven\'t been through losing a spouse can imagine what a complicated emotional time it is. I\'m sure your family means well, but they can\'t understand how you are feeling. It sounds like you are doing what you need to get through. You have the support of her family. Know your folks probably mean well and try to explain that you need to remain where you are for now.
I imagine they feel they could help you if you were closer. Sharon