little things happen a lot. today i was at a shopping mall, and was trying to pay for the parking card. the kids were fighting over who was going to get the coins out of the machine. and the 3 of them were really going at each other. i yelled at them to stop that behaviour.an elderly lady was standing behind me. she smiled at me and said, "dont worry dear, thats what children are all about, mine did the same when they were little....  and I HAD FOUR!" sometimes its so hard to get through the little but such painful moments in life. i chose not to make a scene or say anything untoward that would make her feel awkward, so i just smiled and said, wow, four must have been something!  she said oh yes, it was.  i just smiled then and left.  khaely looked at me, she knew my pain but said nothing.