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I should know by now when someone asks "how are you?" THEY REALLY DON'T WANT TO KNOW and the facial expression says it all.....I'm better in my coccoon, away from people because it always sets me back.....I should know better by now.....why does it even bother me....I'm too old for this SH*&%T,,,,,,
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Six years for me and I still never know how to answer that question. After a time most people don\'t want the truth.
I fully agree with you! And yet I am still a fool, walking into that same ugly situation over and over again. Maybe it is because we keep hoping that they will change and start to care.....
Big hug to you, my friend! xxx
I still tell people that I am down, crappy... sad,,,, they asked! love ya!
I agree they asked, but sometimes I think that is why I don\'t hear from them as often as I would like. That\'s life. Hoping u are having a good day. Hugs, Kathy
I think the \"how ya doin\" and \"how are you\" have replaced a good old fashioned \"Hello\". When I\'m not doing good, I just say \"hi\" back in passing. I mean, I feel that most times they don\'t really want to know how I\'m doing, good or bad.
I do hope that you are doing okay today. It surely is a day to day journey.
Sending you tight hugs,
Diane
I ask if they really want to know ..if they give that looky look, I say fine, or as well as can be expected. I think it convicts them and let\'s them off the hook at the same time
You are so right. People really don\'t want to know. They really should just say Hi and be done with it.
Roll on summer holiday. You can use the break.
Wishing you peace of mind.
Love and tight hugs,
Marlene
Learning to say that I was \"Ok\" has been my new normal and new response. Not that it was always a truthful response, yet to not be OK is Ok too so I just kind of rolled with that one and for whatever reason it helped me.
I truly do not feel that we are being singled out and that it just has become a way to say hello and that if someone does ask how we are perhaps they better have a whole lot of time ready for us to listen if that is what we are needing.
Vacation time is almost here and I know how you will savor that dearest Vicki.
Loving care always and missing that darling Jennifer with YOU,
XO Joanie
I understand all to well. Now I just try to go back to my \"before Josh\" and \"after Josh\" eras and realize that there are 2-3 people who really care besides soths...
Thank you so much for the support - I\'ve never been one to \"air it all out\" and all I said to this person was \"some days suck and it seems like this 2nd year is kicking my butt\".....and I got REALLY? WITH a facial expression of \"I don\'t get it\"....Agree with all of you.....A \"hi\" and keep on walking is good enough. :) (((((hugs))))) Vicki
Four years down this path and I\'m able to answer that I\'m okay. Figure if I\'m upright, clean, dressed with teeth brushed that\'s about as okay as I need to be.
Few people want to hear the truth anyway and we know which ones they are. Vicki, you are so right some days do suck, and then there are the gentler days. They are the ones that sustain us. I hope you have a gentle weekend my friend. Hugs,
Debbie
It is truly mind blowing ??? to me the reactions and comments of people. I hope that if it was them instead of me that I would have the presence of mind to consider their possible state of mind and be KIND. So many just are not, they are so wrapped up in their own lives. I find it is just better to be in my own head with the girls rather than make believe everything is okay.
Wishing you a good weekend. Peace, Kathy
I try to return the question without my answer it works sometimes. Like Debbie said I am ok if I pulled myself together today. I try to shift the conversation over to them instead of me. We need our own response in initial form so they don\'t even get it.
Sending tight hugs
Penny
Why does everything have to be so hard?? I agree with you, I am too old for this S*#t....
((((HUGS)))), Julia
Tight hugs, M