Life
Today was my first day off work for 2 weeks and it was great to not "be needed" by others as is expected at work. I am still hoping that I somehow will be able to click my red shoes and it will be December 26 and all those mental images I have in my head of jovial families, friends having a "perfect" Christmas....But as we all know, the calendar will not change for us so Christmas is just around the corner. I'll make it through one step @ a time.
My husband wanted to move off the mountain and down the hill so he purchased a home close to Palm Springs, Ca. He has been remodeling it on week-ends planning on actually living there sometime after the new year. He has been moving stuff there little by little. I had moved 5 years ago so most of my stuff is with me - you need a bottle of wine or bottle of something to hear the whole story so I'll spare you...LOL
Well, he had not been there in a week - went today only to find the place had been robbed. All his tools, guns (some antique), ammunition, bow & arrow he used when he went hunting, $6000 Silver kept in a safe - they took the safe and miscellaneous boxes that he or I don't know what was in them....Police report was filed (no insurance as he is not living there yet) so lets just say, when I really needed him to be there for me this year @ Christmas - it won't happen :( I feel so selfish saying that but it just seems with him, it's always something even if it's out of their control.
Jim is the type of person that holds onto material things tightly and will fix a broken vase rather than throw it away. There's no judgement, it just makes it so hard to be with someone like that, because he will play the victim, martyr, so long and it just gets tiring and is so negative. In perspective of losing a child..I just can't let it drag me down...God knows I'm already down. What to do....that's only one reason why space from him works for me....I am so mad that thugs steal and just takes what doesn't belong to them that Jim worked so hard for .... my heart hurts for him - won't make Christmas any better that's for sure.
Thanks for listening again....life just keeps happening - Sending much love and hugs to you. Vicki
My husband wanted to move off the mountain and down the hill so he purchased a home close to Palm Springs, Ca. He has been remodeling it on week-ends planning on actually living there sometime after the new year. He has been moving stuff there little by little. I had moved 5 years ago so most of my stuff is with me - you need a bottle of wine or bottle of something to hear the whole story so I'll spare you...LOL
Well, he had not been there in a week - went today only to find the place had been robbed. All his tools, guns (some antique), ammunition, bow & arrow he used when he went hunting, $6000 Silver kept in a safe - they took the safe and miscellaneous boxes that he or I don't know what was in them....Police report was filed (no insurance as he is not living there yet) so lets just say, when I really needed him to be there for me this year @ Christmas - it won't happen :( I feel so selfish saying that but it just seems with him, it's always something even if it's out of their control.
Jim is the type of person that holds onto material things tightly and will fix a broken vase rather than throw it away. There's no judgement, it just makes it so hard to be with someone like that, because he will play the victim, martyr, so long and it just gets tiring and is so negative. In perspective of losing a child..I just can't let it drag me down...God knows I'm already down. What to do....that's only one reason why space from him works for me....I am so mad that thugs steal and just takes what doesn't belong to them that Jim worked so hard for .... my heart hurts for him - won't make Christmas any better that's for sure.
Thanks for listening again....life just keeps happening - Sending much love and hugs to you. Vicki
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Hang in there over Christmas, Vicki.
Love,
Donna
You can cancel Christmas..take a ride to the beach and spend the week with the seagulls...I would join you if I could..I will have a houseful of people that will expect me to be funny...I wish them well in their dreams..I don\'t feel very jovial. Love you Vicki
Yes! Life just keeps on happening. It can be very exhausting and definitely unfair. I am so very sorry to hear about the robbery...such a sad commentary on our world these days...the things people do.
After being on this journey for more that 7 1/2 years the one thing that I know is that Christmas will come...but it will go too. The holiday does change over the years and you can feel joy again...but the pain of our children gone too soon is always there. Love and gentle hugs...Karen
I\'m sorry my friend.
Oh Vicki, I\'m sorry to hear about the burglary and theft. That\'s a bummer for sure. But hopefully it won\'t put too much of a damper on things. So many bad things keep happening in this world and I try not to let it drown out the good.
I hope your days ahead contain peace and hope for better days. Please try to take a physical, mental and emotional break on your day off from work. You probably can surely use it!
Love and tight hugs,
Diane
Oh my dear Vicki. I am so sorry. This time of year is hard enough as it is.
Please take the time for you - you can be the needy one you care for.
Wishing you love and peace.
Tight hugs,
Marlene
That is the pits for your husband and to think that others take what does not belong to them is just not right. I\'m sorry my friend!
You do all the things for yourself that give you a lift, however that may look and feel daily for you. Whether it\'s watching Jersey Boys for the \"third\" time or a hot soak in a bubble bath, a delicious cup of coffee/tea, talking with a dear friend, meditating, reading a book that has been calling your name and feeling the pages of it, taking naps, walking along the shoreline... Just make sure that you do something that brings a sensations of pleasure daily. It is needed and vital for you dear Vicki. Turning the brain off for a few moments and focusing on the sensations of what you have chosen just for you is a healer.
Loving care today and as Karen said the holidays will come and go and each year will be change because you are. Nothing is static and it is ever flowing I have discovered.
Feel whatever you need to and know that you have sisters here who care so very much.
Gentle hugs and love,
XO Joanie
Always here to listen dear friend. So sorry to hear about the robbery, that\'s a shame. To deal with that on top of having a difficult time right now must feel like such a heavy burden Vicki.
I agree with the other moms....take gentle care of yourself. As moms we seem to take care of everyone else, but after suffering the tragedy that we have, it\'s a necessity to take care of ourself.
Wishing a bit of peace to you & your husband during this trying time. Hope knowing we care helps you feel not so alone. Hugs.....Vicki
so so sorry....... sigh...
I\'m sorry to hear of all you are dealing with especially at Christmas. Gentle hugs, Linda
So very sorry...just night right...Hugs, Ann
I also am so very sorry...This is a difficult time of the year but to have a robbery is so sad. Take care and big hugs for you...Nell
Hoping for some peace for you both!!! xoxoxo
I,AM SO SORRY FOR YOU BEING ROBBED I JUST CAN,T UNDERSTAND WHAT KIND OF WORLD WE LIVE IN TODAY SO VIOLENT.. I MORE DAY AND CHRISTMAS AN D ALL THE PAST MEMORIES OF OUR ANGELS WILL BE GONE UNTIL NEXT YEAR. . THEY SAY MEN GRIVE DIFFERANT THEN WOMEN I BELIEVE THAT. TRY TO REST OR WHAT EVER YOU DO TO RELAX. IT IS JUST ME AND MY HUSBAND . I HAVE NO FAMILY AT ALL . BLESS YOUR SPECIAL ANGEL BIG WARM HUGS AND LOVE MARY ANN
Sending special (((((( hugs )))))))