Choices

i had a chat with a girlfriend , and it was common sense stuff but sometimes when you are in the middle of a mess like this you don't have common sense... I get angry all the time ( I never was this way during the marriage actually I would never really talk back but now im hot tempered with him constantly)
my girlfrieno had gone through a divorce a few years back, she tells me it isn't worth the energy , that he didn't deserve me and that these choices he is making will have its consequences( yes for me too) but more for him. She told me let him make his choices and his consequences are NOT your problem they are his problem. It's his choices that are creating this chaos . now and after he leaves he has created this himself . He isn't worth my time or my words or even my emotions . I have them but it he isn't even worth your breath. Yes I get it now , seems like such a simple concept to a complicated matter but yes he isn't worth my breath m my words. Just let him be . Getting angry with him about things means I care, and he doesn't deserve to think I still care , it benefits him not me. It is true . I shall keep that in mind going forward.