I know today is supposed to be green smiley day, but the only thing I have to smile about this morning is the Charleston trip this weekend. I really need it. Today is 9 months for John and I. Yesterday was just awful. I went to the scene and just sat in my truck and cried. I ache so bad for my Josh. I have only done 2 pages of my photo album. I tried working on it last night, but it is so hard. I might have to call my best friend Toni to come over and help me.Dear Josh, Honey I love you and miss you so much. 9 months today your daddy and I lost you. My whole body aches for you Josh. Yesterday we had Grannys 91st birthday party and it was not the same without you. I have her money and a picture of you and she had me sit it where everyone can see it everyday. Well it is 7:30 and I have to go to work. One more thing your birthday is not this Saturday but the next. Your daddy and I are planning on having a couple of your buddies and Logan for lunch and La Paz. I know you would like that. I do miss you so. I love you. Mama
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Rhonda, if you have done two pages, you are two pages further along than I am. I simply can not do it. I have struggled with knowing that since I began this group, it\'s up to me to \'set a good example\' or whatever, but I just can\'t look at those pictures. My feeling is that if it causes that much pain, it will do me more harm than good. I will bring what I can and it\'s the best I can do. So bring two pages or Granny\'s picture of him and that\'s that! With love and hugs - Barbara
I am not bringing a ton of pictures either. Just do what you can. That is the awesome thing about this weekend....no matter what we do or don\'t do....everyone can either identify 1st hand or totally understand.
i won\'t be bringing a lot as well. i have most of them packed away due to the area i live in. any bad weather i can grab this plastic bin full of Reece and pack it in the truck. just bring what you can or want and don\'t worry about the rest of us. we do understand. it is just too hard at times! i am thinking of you today! love you! ~ charlayne
It\'s hard to look at pictures sometimes. I started a scrap book for Heather, and haven\'t touched in a couple of months now. You just do a bit a time, and eventually you will get there. I think going to lunch with some of his friends for his birthday is wonderful. I think it\'s great that you are making the trip. It will be so nice. You finally meet the people in person behind the computer that get you through the days, and honor your son to. Have a safe trip and a good week.
I still hurt so much when I look at pictures. Wishing you a peaceful time in Charleston. HUGS love lucille
One thing at a time. If two pages is all then that\'s ok. You will do it in your own time frame. Years ago I had made Jake and Matt\'s dad a photo album. This father\'s day I added to it for him. One of the hardest things I had to do. Lots of hugs, see you soon, Jake\'s mom, kathy
It does hurt so much-the only thing keeping me sane this week (if I can call myself sane anymore) is thinking about Charleston-when my mind goes to the week before Chris died and I start to have a panic attack I put my mind on seeing everyone in Charleston-thank God we will be there with everyone this weekend. Love, Sandy
You are two pages farther along than I am. I just end up in a tarful mess when I try. You are doing okay give yourself a break and be kind to you. There is no schedule you have to meet. Love and hugs cathy
take your time and enjoy each others company this week end. I truely wish I could be there with you all. Love Melissa
Right before the funeral my sisters and I and BJ\'s wife put together scrapbooks. I was sooo numb at that point which is probably good because I can\'t even look at them now.... All my love, Karen