Today I feel OK but sad at the same time. Does that make sense? I think I feel OK is because of this: Before I woke up this morning I had a dream that seem so real. I saw my Josh. I had to go to school to pick him up and for some reason went in. I went to his class to get him (it was really him). It was like I had not seem him in forever. We hugged I asked him how he was. "I am OK mama." Then I woke up. Was Josh's and God's way of telling me he is fine and good. And I will be OK. I told my husband I feel like I don't want to go anywhere or do anything. His comment was Rhonda, you don't want to be a hermit. MY THING IS US MOTHERS DURING THIS TIME GET TO MAKE OUR ON RULES!!!!! Yes, John is griefing too, but the bond between mother and child is not the same. We need take care of ourselves. No matter what we want to do. I love you my Josh. It was great seeing you in my dream. Come visit your mama more, please.
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I agree about us mothers grieving differently. I am having trouble moving on as well. I wish I can feel his hugs. I miss him dearly. I do have another son as well as the one that passed. They are two completely different children. My son Warren that passed was so sensitive and knew what I felt. He would call me out of the blue and ask me if I was alright. I would not have to tell me anything and he could tell I upset. He would give me a hug and tell me it will be okay. My youngest son which is 26 is different. He is not as sensitive and always on the move. Hardly ever showing his feelings or taking mine into consideration. I keeping telling myself I need to take baby steps to heal my broken heart. It was not my son\'s idea in leaving. If he had a choice he would still be amongst the living, and I know if he could get me a message he would tell me that not to hurt anymore, that he is okay. I am glad that Josh is with you now in spirit and will be with you on your journey of life.
I also agree about the grieving difference. I have been told our loved ones have trouble getting through to us when we are in our heavest grief. Then the best time for us to see them is in our dreams in the early morning. They are here for us! Just not in the way we want.
Josh\'s visit was so very wonderful with his words that he is okay. What a blessing!
my dream was almost similar.the significant thing was that i got it exactly one month after he went.I,too,want to spend time grieving and feeling close to him.even if one goes out..the heartache persists.so u do what gives you comfort.