Well, I had to celebrate my 40th birthday Saturday without Josh. I got up Saturday went into his room and burned an insense for him and cried for about an hour and a half. I just kept thinking I must have done something really bad for God to have done this to me and John. Why Josh? Why not me? I told my family not to plan anything for me, but my loving husband planned me a surprise party. I love him dearly. I was OK when I first got there until I saw Josh's girlfriend and her mother. I just went to them and hugged them and cried some more. My party was good. Would have been better if Josh was there. After John and I left the party we went to see Josh. I cried some more and kept saying it is not supposed to be this way. We were not supposed to be visiting his grave, he was to visit ours. Josh, I love you with all of my heart.

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deleted_user
deleted_user

you have done nothing bad. never think you have. and trust me, it will be one of the first questions out of my mouth when i hit those pearly gets........why did you allow this? i\'m glad you had a good party...bittersweet. Josh was there with you!!! happy belated b\'day.
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deleted_user
deleted_user

Hi I ask myself those questions almost everyday but We didnt do anything, I know the pain of not having your child on your birthday Ashley passed away on mine,I will never celebrate mine again..I ask why she was allowed to live for a week and then everything was taken away, questions we will never know,Dont be hard on yourself and If you need someone to talk to Im here..I say the same when I go to Ashley\'s grave how could this be? and it always hits me like a ton of bricks..again Im here
Kim
Kim