Feel so so low. I just feel like everything is going from bad to worse and worse and worse... It's just never ending. I wish I could turn back time. It just seems this is going to follow me forever endlessly. All I want is a nice place to enjoy my horse and stick by my bf. But also a part of me is so angry. It's because of him I have lost so many friends, I'm not allowed back to the yard where I was happy able to have company out with the horse. Have fun. But now I'm just feeling sick all the time I just don't want this shitty life. I wish at night I would just not wake up. I know that is selfish. But I just feel my life now is going nowhere. I can't see how any good will ever come of it. Fuckin wonderful..
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I\'m so sorry you feel this way. Do you have any support in real life? Do you have anyone you can lean on?
Not really. To be honest I\'ve lost a lot of friends because of things with my partner. My mum doesn\'t want us together. I can turn to my mum for anything except to do with my partner. The mess with finding a place for my horse is also because of him. It\'s just dragging me down. I don\'t want us to break up but I don\'t see my life going anywhere at all.
I can relate to losing friends, you certainly find out who the genuine ones are when something like this happens. Anyone who has dumped you over it wasn\'t a proper friend in the first place. I\'m lucky in that I have two wonderful friends who have been totally supportive. Unfortunately, one is a busy mum of 4 who lives two hours away & the other is in Australia... Try not to let the situation overwhelm you and become the focus of everything in your life. I know that\'s hard (trust me!) but the way to move forward to concentrate on other stuff. Do something good for yourself that is purely for you x
Things are just getting worse and worse. Last night I got a message to say they know I haven\'t been staying home. I\'ve told everyone we had split up to try and make things easier for me to get a place sorted for my horse. We did try a break we have been together 5 and a half years it\'s really hard to just totally cut off all ties. But now I am the target. Someone must be watching me. My heads spinning with everything. I couldn\'t stop shaking when I heard this. I just can\'t get a minute. I can\'t get left alone to get this sorted. I am no threat to anyone I just want to move on with my horse. Such a mess it really is
A message from who? Do you have any children? Guessing not, as you don\'t mention any. Have you considered moving away? That\'s what I did. It\'s not for everyone, but it\'s allowed me to continue my relationship with my husband away from prying eyes. It\'s so hard & people are so judgemental
No kids no. Well I had a new yard arranged for tomorrow but last night one of the people who keeps her horse there had contacted someone I know from where my horse is just now to ask about me and said they\'d heard some unsettling things. I can\'t move away :-( I need to be here for work and my mum especially after losing my dad last year. It\'s just like every corner I turn I hit another brick wall... I don\'t know what the answer is x
It\'s so unfair that we did nothing wrong, but get tarred with the same brush as our offending partners. It will get better, over time the interest will die back.