i have this neighbor and I really nearly dispise her. She has three children, two of which are boys who are not much different in age than my oldest boy. But, they are MANIACS! Ok, world, I know that my boy isn't an angel, really, i am clear to that. but, her boys are bullying sociopaths. They can be sweet, but every time I fall for it something bad happens.
Anyway, a month and a half after Levi died, I had to call this mother because her boys and the other neighbor boys were leaving garbage in our yard and were beating up my son with sticks and poles and whatever else they could find. They also swore like sailors, every word imaginable and them some not. Well, I promise that I was polite and I explained that our baby had just died, which she knew, and that we just needed some space from the neighborhood kids for a while. i also told her,as gently as possible, what was going on with her boys. I even told her that I knew that my boy wasn't innoscent (no kid is!) but that it was best that the kids not play in our yard for a while. She utterly flipped out. so, that was that and I knew that she would forever more be unreasonable. I was calm and polite and ended our phone call.
A few days later, me and my kids were returning from the cemetary to decorate Levi's spot because he had turned 10 months old. I passed her in her car and pulled up to my house. i realized that my goofy dog was out again (I had tried to chain him in the back and put him in our kennel but there was no keeping him in), and as I brought him to my yard, scolding him and spanking his butt, she came flying out of nowhere screaming and cussing about my dog. She had actually turned her car around to get into it with me.
I still had a hold of my dog when she grabbed my shoulder, still screaming her dang brains out. Then, I snapped. I somehow got max in the house but i turned back around and started walking towards her. She got scared and ran off but I nearly got a hold of her to do whatever I was about to do. She left in her car and returned and called the police on me. I nearly went to jail! Anyway, she had lied to the officer and he came over to me and just told me to stay away from her and he also said that he was going to tell her to do the same. i was so embarrassed and angry.
Anyway, I have done a really good job at staying away. I have not spoke to her or looked at her only becasue I know that she's insane and I'm capable of losing my self control.
The whole thing was that she was nuts and her kids are out of control and that it wasn't something that i could handle after Levi died. I just don't get how someone could be that nasty.
So, it's almost been a year since that episode and I have done my part. But, the other day, i heard about her screaming profanity at some other child (he was fighting with her boys and getting beat up), then yesterday, she told my son to stay out of her yard. He hadn't been in her yard, she scares him, but she just wanted to warn him just because she was itching to say something I guess.
I told her before not to talk to my child because of her nature. So, I'm angry again. It's even the same time of year. i wonder if she loses her mind in the spring?
I was wrong to lose it like I did, butI wasn't exactly sane then.
I hate bullies and she is one. I'm not afraid of her but i also know that i can't deck her to solve the issues. I can't even talk to her or something will happen!
So, three times now, her dogs have been lose in MY yard and I've nearly called the pound just to get even. Oh, I do know better but it would fell soooo good.
I'm pregnant and hormonal so I know that I'm not at my best emotional state right now so I have to be mindful of what I do and say. Oh, she just gets to me though!
Her children have the problems that they have because she flips out. My son will too if I retaliate. I have to be the bigger person. I just don't like it!
What would the world be like if everyone was like her?
I took things more personal becasue she knew that our baby had just died and she really acted like it didn't matter because I had insulted her by saying that her boys were out of control. i didn't even say THAT much.
I know what it's like to be insanely protective nad defensive over my children. I just don't get the rest and i find it intollerable.
I also realize that it might be easy for me to be angry with her because it gives me a target point for my abrasive emotions.
So, I'll breathe in and out unless something worse happens then I'll just call the police. It just seems so stupid that I can't talk this out with her without her exploding.
My hubby says that I shouldn't even care about her and her mouth. But, she is just two houses away AND she's a volunteer at the elemtary school that all of our children attend. It's disturbing to me that she's around other children, especialy mine.
Well, I might feel beeter now that I've vented. I'm tired and I'm going to bed now.