3 days to a new year

Well today is day two of getting ready for 2023. I am going to make some changes next year. My wife says I do not have an identity of my own and she may be right. I did want to be self-employed for the longest time and I probably still want to be self-employed I just dont want the drama I get from my wife when I do things like pay my son for the hours he worked. He is going through some tough times in his relationship as well. I give him slack because his wife moved another woman/lover into the house. He struggles with childcare so he puts up with her. My wife does not have as much compassion for him as I do. I understand because I know what it is like to be heart-broken form a marriage. 

The wife has started with wanting the divorce again. It's nothing new and we go through this often. I reach out for others to help me through this tough time because I have a hard time facing this. This will be my second divorce and I have been married 23 years. It has been a rocky 23 years. The relationship is toxic and there is no reason to stay in it anymore. We dont have sex, the kids are grown so there wont be a child support issues and she doesnt want alimony. We will sell and split the house, we just have to figure out what to do with our pets. I had a moment of weakness and contemplated letting her keep my dog because he is good friends with hers. I believe my dog was brought into my life to help me feel loved when I have tough times with my wife. It sure does suck to make these kind of decisions, I surely don't want to make them. But it's time, ther has to be a better way then this.