Last night, I was at a party, and I saw a friend from high school. She has a "softer" demeanor to her, and I find that appealing.But she was wearing a LOW-cut shirt that really exposed her cleavage.And I felt very sad.She doesn't think it's important to hide that form perfect strangers-- and share it only behind closed doors with someone she's committed to? She's okay exposing that to the whole world?To me, that cheapens her breasts.Why is it so difficult to find a girl who feels as I do about modesty in dress?If anyone is interested, take a look at Wendy Shalit's book, "A Return to Modesty." It's a good window into how I feel about this.And actually, I've just discovered this, too: http://www.modestyzone.net.
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Perhaps she wasn\'t so much wearing it for other people, but for herself. A lot of the fashion just includes low cut shirts. Now, there is a difference between wearing a low-cut shirt and buying a shirt two sizes two small so your boobs are all over the place (like a couple of my friends). I think there is a happy medium.
It\'s really easy to cross the line. On one hand, if you buy the RIGHT size shirt, it can look flattering. And I agree, some should be left to the imagination ;-) But it\'s an easy mistake to make.
I try not to judge. I try not to consider someone\'s action\'s a mistake, or as bad. I try to respect people\'s beliefs and their feelings, just as I\'d want mine to be.
But I agree with you, Cristina, that some things should be \"left to the imagination.\"
It\'s painful to me when I\'m turned on by a part of a woman\'s body that she\'s knowingly exposing, because it just causes me anguish over not being able to have \"that,\" and feeling alone and impatient in waiting to have sex. But I\'m not comfortable asking someone to actually cover herself up, because that would infringe on my respect for her wish to do as she wants (as long as it\'s not illegal...).
So, I feel stuck.
As for the idea that she was exposing herself that way for herself... Well... okay.
That\'s not someone I\'d want to be with.
The girl I\'m looking for would understand.
All good points. :-/