I have been in touch with an abuse shelter and talking with some people and they have given me a number to a lawyer that I can call and ask questions. The shelter told me to call J&D court and see if he has filed for a petition of custody. I am fearful that they would let him know that someone has inquired about that. He was here all day and on the phone so I haven't had a chance to talk to anyone. He will be gone tomorrow so I am going to give the lawyer a call. I found out that he has gotten a cash advance of about 4000.00 dollars on MY credit card. Used a check that the credit card companys send out to entice you to use them. So he has "forged" my signature. I so want out of this relationship. I really don't think that he would be granted custody. I don't want joint custody.....I want primary with visitation. Ava has told me some things that he has said when they go outside. I don't ask her, she volunteers this info....she said he says we all are lazy and just lay around and watch TV while he does all the work. We don't care about the animals and are just using him. The woman at the shelter says "leave with the kids and apply for custody, child support, and spousal support!" I have to pick a day where I KNOW that he is going to be gone for a while and the van is here. Just thinking about sends my stomach into nervous spasms. If I was packing and leaving and he comes and catches me........that is my main concern now. Rest assured I AM GOING TO LEAVE HIM!!!!! That makes me feel good just to say it. I keep reminding myself all the things he has said and the desicion is pretty easy, just fearful.