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i got a call from the investigator the DNA results are not back yet for me they took my dads DNA and that came back . i never even opened the suitcase that i had with me during that weekend visit - i couldn't so i left them it turned out that it was in my favor because those clothes are evidence i dont care what they do with them later don't send them to me i WILL burn them to dust.the lab is overwhelmed and has had the DNA sample for a month now i just sit here and play the waiting game I DONT WANT TO WAIT i want this finished now.is there anyone else who reads these entries i write am i alone out there or am i going through this alone? i wish people would reply i need to hear from you PLEASE
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No your not alone! What I have read about you sounds to me that your going through sheer utter hell, your one tough lady! You got me teary eyed, and that\'s hard for me to achieve, so I sincerely say thank you. Thinking back I wished I could have done what you doing now, but my abuser, my dad is long dead and gone. I know this waiting game is great misery but these things take time. I\'ve been on this healing journey on and off for over 3 decades now, and I too at times wish this was all behind me. You\'ll never know what\'s in that suitcase until you open it. Yes I know it\'s rough but don\'t allow the unknown to keep punishing you. Take that step, I\'m cheering for you! Just hang in there and I know someday you\'ll look back and feel damn proud of yourself, as you are truly deserve!
THANK YOU i wondered if anyone followed my posts if i was just another name who dared to put their feelings out there so thank you for you just helped make my day brighter i am not going to ever give up and get justice none of us should i started my therapy today setting up the plan of attack now i call for support group and dive into trying to untangle the mess the last two ears have been i am terrified but today i got a hint of a speck of light inside a black hole.thank you i will keep up the journaling it helps sometimesthough i just can\'t get up the energy or mental will i have been using sleep to avoid the unwanted ryepedative constant thoughts.i am starting to take action though it is baby steps only for now
Hi again, it\'s good to see all your doing. If I may make a gentle suggestion, don\'t \"dive\" into things but simply wade into them slowly, like wading into a cold lake (not as traumatic), and don\'t forget to take breaks now and again from all this stuff, do something for yourself that you truly enjoy, consider this time a time to regroup, reflect and reenergize. Basically take good care of yourself along this journey. I must also add, and I know this is a rough spot (this happened to me), but always be prepared for an attack. I mean by coming forward with the police as you have done there could be some relatives or friends of your father who may defend him by turning on you. Stuff like, \"how can you do this to the family\", or why don\'t you just get over it, etc. I\'ve have had this happen in my own family and have known many in which this has happened to. Revictmiizing the victim I believe they call it. I truly hope this doesn\'t happen to you, but if it does you\'ll be somewhat ready for it although it hurts all the same, just not as bad as if you didn\'t see it coming as I experienced. Just remember your doing a very noble and honourable thing here and you setting a wonderful example for others to follow! You Go Girl!!
i am prepared to get stuff from relatives though most know me well enought to know i would never lie about something like this and do believe what i have told them i have thankfully been raised in a family where there is nothing worse than a child molester from what i know my fathers brother wants nothing to do with him his sister while believing that he is guilty does not totally writting him off dad lives in a run down shack with no running water hardly any electric an outhouse and wood heat so she does let him take showers and get water i am glad for that little bit of humanity even when he does deserve to suffer its a hard thing to have conflicted feelings but i wont be totally inhumane????!!!!! it seems that every waking moment i am mentally preparing for the onslought of questions and looks i know i was not the one who was wrong and i will not accept any blame for any reason like this