better day
today is much better than yesterday. And I believe tomorrow will be better than today. I refuse to give him the unknown satisfaction of my stress. Nope! Ain't doing it!
I had long talk with my cousin. She hasn't been around here for years (works for the FBI). So she doesn't know all the facts. She met exass I think once when we first got married some 30 years ago.
Anyway, after a few questions she came to the conclusion that she thinks he is obsessed with my hurt. Maybe so, maybe not. But I don't let him know either way. I am stronger than he can ever imagine. At least, most of the time.
I did send a message to his nephew/niece who sent me fb friend request. Told them sorry but under the circumstances I could not accept it. Nothing to do with them because I love them dearly,, but because their uncle. Didn't go into details. They are really nice but I don't reach out to his family. She responded with I will always be their aunt and they all love me. Even sent me pics of her grandkids and her grown kids. Time flies.
But today is better.......
I had long talk with my cousin. She hasn't been around here for years (works for the FBI). So she doesn't know all the facts. She met exass I think once when we first got married some 30 years ago.
Anyway, after a few questions she came to the conclusion that she thinks he is obsessed with my hurt. Maybe so, maybe not. But I don't let him know either way. I am stronger than he can ever imagine. At least, most of the time.
I did send a message to his nephew/niece who sent me fb friend request. Told them sorry but under the circumstances I could not accept it. Nothing to do with them because I love them dearly,, but because their uncle. Didn't go into details. They are really nice but I don't reach out to his family. She responded with I will always be their aunt and they all love me. Even sent me pics of her grandkids and her grown kids. Time flies.
But today is better.......
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Atta girl. ...
You are doing great! Good for you not accepting a friend request. It hurts too much to see them on there. I started a totally new FB page and did not even include my children or sister on there because they interact with him on FB. I have absolutely no contact with him and it hurts so much less that way. My children understand because they know I don\'t want to see photos of him with the grandchildren or see his replies. He lives about 3 hours away and visits about once a month so he does keep in touch by phone and FB with my daughter who has 3 children (2 are the year old twins). I see them every few days since I live so near to her :)
Keep it up and it does get better!
Hugs,
Donna
NEVER let them see you sweat (or, more importantly) cry. You just keep on doing what you have been and it will get easier over time. xoxo
Hugs, my friend. You are on the right track. Whenever I have to be in the same room as that ex-jerk, I smile, slowly turn around and walk away. It will get easier. I never cried in front of them, I cried afterwards, even then, it was for a few minutes. Hugs and smile my friend.