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Ok so I got the papers. No surprise there. I called it for what it was and I was right. He wants to walk away giving me nothing but house and car and he thinks that is all I should get after 28 yrs. I hope the lawyer is right and I get more than what he thinks I will get. Just so tired of it all. Had breakdown yesterday. Couldn't stop crying. Had to take valium 2x yesterday. Haven't had to do that for a while now. But sat outside and just looked around and remembered doing the projects (porch, planting trees, mowing. etc) that were good times. Dammit I dont want to remember those times! The release was good though. Son's gf came out and talked to me. Said to try to hang in there. Then I started to remember the bad times and felt better. He is an ass and always will be. I feel bad my sons have lost their dad but he did that and not me. I doubt their feelings will ever change. I, for some reason, got a sense that he wont be around for years and years. Both his brothers have and had prostrate cancer. One died 4 yrs ago. the other is getting tb treatments now. So what are the odds. Not asking for death for him cause that is not me. But with his lifestyle of smoking, and caffeine and so so many women he wont be round long. And the fact that he knows he gave me hpv and also another bacterial std that he never took care of (9 months now) he will get something soon enough. Karma at it's best. But I will be fine. Just need sign that I will get justice soon.
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It\'s a rare case when the runaway spouse is the least bit generous with the initial settlement proposal. You have to be your own advocate and KNOW what your bottom line is. Your attorney can\'t do anything without your consent, so you will have to be clear with him/her on what you want.
As to the relationship between your stbx and you son -- THAT is between the two of them and there is very little you can do about it one way or another. My best advice: Continue to assure your son of your love for him and let his father figure out his continuing role on his own.
^What she said^ Both about your son and the money.
I hope things work out for you-I don\'t expect justice in my case really because there is not a law against being an immoral douchebag.
So so strange my life. I have already told lawyer my terms and he agrees. I feel good where I am heading. My sons assure me they r fine with it all I thank god for that. The mutual restraining order says basically no bothering his children. They say bull! They r adults and want contact with their half brothers and me. Here\'s a funny. Just got off phone with his daughter. She said last 3x\'s she talked to him he\'s said he knows he screwed up but doesnt know his to fix it. Don\'t know what he\'s thinking but there is no \"fixing\" us. Cause there is no us. There\'s your laugh for the night!
i envy you your strong and on your way to happiness I\'m going thru almost same thing but I don\'t no what to do yet. You hang in there. Big hug