new to this so not sure what I am doing. I have recently separated from hubby of 27 years. Actually we separated once last year got back together for 6 months and he left again. Not sure what the reason is again. Wait I guess I do. He says he just wasnt happy. Lots of things have gone down in the last 6 years. He lost a sister, his mother then his brother. He have repeatedly cheated on me. We have 2 adult sons and both have written him off. I know everyone tells me to kick him to the curb but for some reason it's hard to do. He says he is seeking counseling (we both attended but lost it when he lost insurance thru company) to figure out why or what is making him do what he does. Doesn't want to rush into divorce yet but asks to give him time. I told him not to come back because he is not good for my health and I need time to refind me. But I need someone to talk to. I have dropped all contact with him.
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I don\'t mean to sound callous, but if you stopped going to counseling due to lack of insurance, then the counseling must not have been a priority for you. There is NO SUBSTITUTE for counseling or therapy -- especially at such a critical point in your marriage. Not to sound as if I am being sympathetic to JUST HIM, but so many losses in a short period of time would put a serious hurting on anyone. However, if he has been a serial cheater, then that\'s reason enough to divorce him. How many chances does a cheater deserve? NONE. Not in this Cowgirl\'s book.
09/22/2011 11am
I\'m sorry for what you are going thru, but as you\'ll find out we all understand it. We\'ve been there and are still there.
Its good to write your feelings in your journal.
May you accept all the knowledge, prayers, comforting thoughts, friendship and love from all of us here on DS.
the ins thing was money issue. If I dont have the money how do I go? And yes I know the cheater thing applies. I would like to say that today after reading my posts and answers I do feel more empowered. I know he\'s toxic and I am taking over the power. I am determined to wipe him off my daily life. What is that song..you dont realize what you\'ve got til it\'s gone? Well I\'m gone baby. elvis has left the building!