Thinking...
I've had a rough week. Didn't realize I had missed my appointment by a day for the Domestic Violence counselor so we rescheduled for next week. Been thinking about relationships and what I need to do this summer and next fall.
As in relationships I've been thinking about my aunt her man. They've been together for 20 years, they're not married and he still treats her like she's a queen. She told me that their relationship has always been give and take but the difference between theirs and what mine was instead of me giving all the time and he taking is that they both give and take. They know that if they treat each other right that it will come back to them in some form. He's an avid hunter, works in a bigger city and drives an hour to and from and she is his whole world. Even to this day he texts her more than she does him. He'll send her 2-3 texts during his work day just to see what she's doing, if everything is alright or just to say he loves her or misses her. He'll call her every day at his lunch break just to bs. To him that's his responsibility and I have never heard him complain. But people in relationships have to be on the same page. Some people may not like that attention but I sure would. Not that I'm insecure but I want to feel that love from someone especially after 20 years. She doesn't doubt that he cares, she knows he does. If he does or says something that upsets her he will make up for it and reconcile. He will own up to it. My ExN only admitted that he did 2 things wrong. Drank too much and gamed on the computer too much. That's it. What about your own relationships? I've admitted to him that I've done things wrong, maybe even admitted I was wrong because I wanted to stop the fight or argument. I always apologized for things that wasn't even my fault. His apologizing was "I'm sorry you perceived what I said that way" as if that's an apology, it's a sarcastic remark that he still didn't have to own up to what happened. I hope some day to have an actual 50/50 relationship.
This summer I have a list of things to do. Have a few yard sales with my mom. Was thinking about going back to Missouri to do a few sales if I can. I got to go to Texas to see family and friends. Want to take that trip to Hawaii. Want to try to go sky diving but I need to lose a few pounds for that. I told my kids we could go to Six Flags when they get back from their dad's. I need to figure out what I'm going to go to school for. Really wish I could find some way of going to that school in Hawaii I found. I can't afford it but keep hoping I win the lotto or something :)
As in relationships I've been thinking about my aunt her man. They've been together for 20 years, they're not married and he still treats her like she's a queen. She told me that their relationship has always been give and take but the difference between theirs and what mine was instead of me giving all the time and he taking is that they both give and take. They know that if they treat each other right that it will come back to them in some form. He's an avid hunter, works in a bigger city and drives an hour to and from and she is his whole world. Even to this day he texts her more than she does him. He'll send her 2-3 texts during his work day just to see what she's doing, if everything is alright or just to say he loves her or misses her. He'll call her every day at his lunch break just to bs. To him that's his responsibility and I have never heard him complain. But people in relationships have to be on the same page. Some people may not like that attention but I sure would. Not that I'm insecure but I want to feel that love from someone especially after 20 years. She doesn't doubt that he cares, she knows he does. If he does or says something that upsets her he will make up for it and reconcile. He will own up to it. My ExN only admitted that he did 2 things wrong. Drank too much and gamed on the computer too much. That's it. What about your own relationships? I've admitted to him that I've done things wrong, maybe even admitted I was wrong because I wanted to stop the fight or argument. I always apologized for things that wasn't even my fault. His apologizing was "I'm sorry you perceived what I said that way" as if that's an apology, it's a sarcastic remark that he still didn't have to own up to what happened. I hope some day to have an actual 50/50 relationship.
This summer I have a list of things to do. Have a few yard sales with my mom. Was thinking about going back to Missouri to do a few sales if I can. I got to go to Texas to see family and friends. Want to take that trip to Hawaii. Want to try to go sky diving but I need to lose a few pounds for that. I told my kids we could go to Six Flags when they get back from their dad's. I need to figure out what I'm going to go to school for. Really wish I could find some way of going to that school in Hawaii I found. I can't afford it but keep hoping I win the lotto or something :)
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