Well, the X came over and tried to talk to son it did not go over well at all, son refused to go any where with and said we can talk here Dad , that started it  X, telling son that he doesn't run the show, and he doesn't have any right to mad because he's losing house it none of sons buisness what he spends money on. My son just got  up and walked into the house, and sat down and cried and threw pillows, gritted his teeth,well after we tallked, he decided to call his Dad and say that maybe it was to soon to talk about as he is still really upset, all his dad did was push him and force him into a conflict, when my son asked ?  X didn't want to hear it just turned it around , in the end X made my son feel like everythings his fault, X is such a jerk I talked to my son and got it thru to him it was in no way his fault,, I signed son up today on DS for teens he really likes it.. so I just have to keep up my strenght and hope that things will work out in a way that is suitable for us, AGAIN, I WILL NOT LET MY X'S FAILURE BECOME MINE.OURS!!!! Goodnight everybody,Campyone