Okay, I am feeling better today,not great but better, I guess I knew that at some time that X was going to do this to us, thats why I made him buy me  out on share of house, always was finacially inept, even thought that's what he does for a living he does cost control for very large companies. My son fell apart at the news, and is very angry and doesn't want  to speak to his Dad right now. I really thought that this kind of crap was done.We went thru it when we split up 2 1/5 years ago all the decision had been made, Jeez he's suck a flake I wonder how I could have been so blind. Oh well, it's a new day and I won't let his failure be mine..