This morning, in the quiet hour, as I play with Miss early bird babygirl, it occurs to me. Biomom has never had both kids by herself, with no help from anyone. Perhaps I am wrong, but I can’t think of a time. Even when she had opportunity, she would invite a friend over, and either have the friend help, or ignore the kids completely. On all the visitations at my house, she would end up watching tv or talking to someone on the phone for hours. I have always stepped in to help, gs would leave her and go play with PawPaw. The rare events where we would leave her with them while we got in the hottub, she would be calling out the door for us, and inside she would be watching tv. I could be mistaken, but sure seems like her interactions with the kids are short. When gs was in foster care, and she had visitation, I went with her to all of them, and tried to keep her from getting frustrated. Helping her. If he was crying she asked me to take him. And we bonded Biomom has a low frustration level, and a hot temper. When angry she yells and throws things.Her saying she is getting both kids is crazy. She says it will be sooner than I think. I guess it would be, since I don’t see it happening at all. She claims she is working, but she is always at her boyfriends house..She claims he has investment businesses. However, he only has a cheap apartment, no table, a mattress on his floor for a bed…WOWI think its time for the visits to be with her exerting more effort. I hate to punish the kids, but she needs to see how much work it is to handle 2 kids, without me to change diapers and feed them and keep them busy. No going out, strapping them in carseats and strollers. Just good ole here’s your kids, play with them for a couple hours, change them, and  feed them yourself.