I got my grandson from dss in oct. ddmom was preg again and "engaged" . She continues to live here. In order to get her son back she was supposed to get a job. She ended up on permanent bed rest. She strengthened her bond with her son. I hoped she was going to marry and take her children. I helped her through the pregnancy, I took her to appointments. She had premature rupture of membranes. I watched Baby Daniel born in Jan.I loved him. He only lived 2 days due to immature lungs. I am not over the grief, although I know it's insane to have wanted another baby whom I most likely would end up supporting. Last month I got laid off. Although I am searching hard for a job, I havent found one yet. NOW SHE IS PREG AGAIN! I cannot do this again, I cannot put my life on hold another year to support an ingrateful, lazy, mother who apparently doesn't care enough to complete getting her firstborn back enough to use a damned condom! Why is unprotected sex more important to her than working to get her son back? He has developed a better bond with her. He is looking to her as his mommy. That was the point of her living here! Now I get to be the horrible person by kicking her out, but I can't go through another pregnancy with her. It's too much, too much pain, too much stress. I have to yell and threaten to get her to do any housework whatsoever. Not to mention I have to pay for everything. I have refused to buy her anything, I tell her to get a job. She yells at me for not BUYING HER CLOTHES!! I buy everything my grandson needs!She has never bought diapers, formula, clothing, toys, furniture,ect for my grandson.I have to pay 120 weekly for daycare as dss wont let her have unsupervised visitation yet! Do I kick her out? What is best for my grandson? He is only 20 months old, and lived from 1 month old to 13 months old in foster care. I feel like he had to loose a foster mom already, I don't want him to lose his mommy. When I got him in October, he was bonded to me more than her, but now he does go to to her than most of the time. She is still "engaged" Supposedly she is going to marry in july, but he lives with his parents and cant keep a job more than 2 months in a row. He makes less than 9 an hour, she is minimum wage when she will work. Is there any chance she is going to raise her own son or am I delusional??????????