Allowing my dd to stay with me and help raise her son is supposed to be right. However, her inability to get along with anyone is getting to be a major concern. My son has come home, after getting out of the military, and he needs to grow up and get his own place. My younger daughter was off in college, but is now coming home also. Supposedly she wants to get a job and get her own place. My husband and I are reuniting, I love him and miss him.  Everyone in the house can get along except for ddmom. SHe argues with everone, and has a conniption when she feels she is not getting her way. I really am sick of her behavior. Enter my husband,her father and I am afraid it is a recipe for disaster. I want him home, I want my youngest daugter home. I am sadly afraid ddmom is going to make it impossibly difficult. DDmom sits at home, waiting for us to fix her car before she will hunt a job. I am an idiot and don't seem to be able to make anyone help me with the house on a consistent basis. I need a support group for DOORMATS R US. Now matter how much I talk to my adult kids, I cannot seem to make any lasting impression on them.  My grandson is in my custody, and he is the only one who cannot do for himself. Taking care of a toddler is exhausting enough without the additional stress of my kids yelling  at each other and arguing over the stupidest of things. I work full time, pick him up from daycare, get him home, have to deal with cleaning the kitchen, preparing dinner, feeding and bathing him, motivating help with housework, and getting him to sleep at a decent hour. On weekends I have to deal with laundry and shopping.