How do I deal with a husband that I think very strongly has a porn addiction?My husband spends way too much time online looking at hardcore porn.His computer screensaver is a woman in a pornographic pose and I get sick to my stomach every time I see him online.I have tried talking to him but he blows me off.I am at the point where I'm thinking of leaving him.Right now I'm not sure what I am going to do.I have so much thinking to do.I am sick myself and I don't know if I have the strength to deal with his problem too.He doesn't even think he has a problem but he can't get that stuff off of his computer.That to me is a big problem.
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I agree honey. Sometimes when we are sick and unable to satisfy their needs they turn to that crap. I am not saying that is your case cuz I dont know. All you can do is try to talk to him and if he doesnt want to listen it is his loss. Whatever his need is, if it has gone past that to constant porn than he has a problem. Have you tried talking to your therapist about it? You shouldnt have to deal with it or take it into yourself. It isnt your problem. Ask him why he does it? What draws him? Ask him to stop and if he doesnt tell him how you feel and that you wont put up with it. I know I couldnt. To me it feels like cheating. Even if we cant be intimate with them when we dont feel good it isnt a reason to resort to that. You have a right to your feelings and you have a right to express them. Dont hold it in it will only eat at you and that isnt healthy either. Take care of you. Luv and hugs and prayers
Men are wierd. Maybe he thinks it\'s safe because he isn\'t cheating on you or anything, just sitting behind his little monitor, but he\'s not innocent. Personally I would give him a taste of his own medicine and rent some gay videos, and turn them up full blast evertime he logs in.
I have the same problem with my husband... I know that sick feeling all too well...