Healing
After what Liz and Lisa did to me I've had to deal with trust issues with Geo. I promised him if I ever left him I would let him know. It's hard for me to deal with, but I have to re-earn his trust. I know he loves me, or else he would be way gone by now. I actually made him cry, which just broke my heart. Things are not back to normal by a long shot, but our anniversary is on the 26th (10 years) and we don't have the money to do something nice. Going out to eat is pretty much off the list since he can only eat a tiny bit at a time with his new stomach. He also is in pain still with his back and his knees. We are getting a new mattress on Tuesday so hopefully that will help. Lisa is totally out of my life now... I deleted her number from my phone. I haven't deleted Liz's number because she calls me sometime and I need to know not to answer the phone. Or so I tell myself. I don't know. It's a long and painful road to recovery... I'm willing to do it for Geo. I love him with every part of me.
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Im sorry you are Geo have been going threw struggles because of those two \"friends\" but you did the right thing by distancing yourself from them. If they are not bringing you positive support and just causing problems then they not true friends. You and Geo are the ones that know your relationship and only you and him can pick whats best for the two of you not these supposed to be friends. Im happy to hear you both are trying to get past what these two have done. Its not your fault they put doubts in your thoughts. It will take time but I know you and Geo can work threw things and in the end you will be closer than ever :)
Good2go2001 said it all. I hope you can realize if you two love each other it can work out.. .you both have to work at it. Happy Early Anniversary . 10 years is nothing to sneeze at.. It\'s wonderful that you both have been together that long. HUGS
shouldn\'t you have dropped LIZ since she is the one that made up all the crap about geo? and kept lisa? you know lisa longer. just wondering. that whole thing is strange anyway. liz going through her own battles has nothing to do with you.
best of luck to both of you and happy anniversary. try the free newspaper. there are probably lots of things to do. how about six flags, is that still down there? it used to be super cheap to join it for a year and then its free admission allll year, including their concerts. xxoo
Liz was the one making the claims about Geo. Lisa wants nothing to do with me unless I leave Geo
why does lisa believe all the crap all of a sudden? haven\'t you known her a really long time?
It is none of their business whether you are with Geo or someone else. I cannot understand that. You and Geo are the only one that really matter. When you close that door to the outside, both of you have to deal with things. Tell them, that is nice and walk away. You do not need those two in your life. Hugs my friend and smile
Lisa always thought Geo was abusive.... she just joined in with Liz when they brainwashed me against him. Liz even said after Geo and I got back together that she was projecting her abusive ex husband in Geo.
I am so sorry all this is still going on, they are terrible people and were never friens and that too is a hard pill to swallow. I imagine you feel very unsure about yourself in picking friends now. so glad you and geo are trying to make things work and you are willing to work on gaining trust back. it is hard, as he has been verbally abusive, but you love him so much and I know he loves you. you can get past this and 10 years in nothing to just throw away. yes, look in the paper, there are usually many free activites going on, there may be one you would like. I believe in you. so glad to be back on the internet! many hugssss
did lisa ever say WHY she felt geo was abusive? did she give you examples?
Geo can be verbally abusive sometimes, and when I got scared of him I would call her. So she knows all the bad but none of the good. He\'s loving and caring... I know he would never hurt me.
if you befriend lisa again, maybe don\'t discuss geo or even mention geo with her at all. its easier. \"friends\" can generally do a LOT of damage to any and all relationships if you let them. better off telling a priest or telling a therapist than telling a friend. or even suicide hotline, as just someone to hear you out or alanon as they are trained to deal with people who are abused (doesn\'t have to be alcohol, it can be any kind of abuse, drugs or the person who is mental), abuse is abuse. all the same, the \"why\" doesn\'t really matter for the victim because the result is the same.