I remember an afternoon when I was maybe 12 years old hanging out in front of the house  when the neighbor from across the street pulled into his driveway and my dad said hello to him and he came over to chat. My dad offered him a beer and he said, "no thanks, I don't drink anymore". Not sure what the conversation turned into but I do know that it sounded like something pretty serious. But I didn't understand why him having a beer on a sunny afternoon had to do with anything.               Now I have an 8 year old daughter. She knows that dad can't drink beer anymore but seems unsure of  why other than dad has a problem. She does know that I go to group meetings a few nights a week and that I have "medicine" that I take so that I can't drink alcohol. I can see it in her eyes that she doesn't  really understand the connection between drinking beer and having meetings and taking medicine. She seems kinda stumped. Mom drinks beer, Grandma and Grandpa drink beer, Uncle Scott drinks beer, the whole family drinks beer at get togethers. I remember when I told her that I can't drink anymore, she teared up and said "but everyone has to drink water ". The term "drink" meant nothing to her other than the simple word drink.