CRAZY!!!!!

I was diagnosed as being codependent a year ago when I was being treated for depression. I really didn't educate myself. Just knew the highlights, people pleaser and avoid conflict. I had come to realize I had been that way since child hood. Everyones problems were my problems. I tried to control the situation and FIX it.
Well, I've been divorced two years and only dated a few guys. Of course they were guys that I knew wouldn't turn into a relationship. However, it seemed like a trend with all of them. They acted crazy about me and seemed very attracted to me but then they started to appear less interested.  I felt I acted desperate and crazy as it was ending.
 However, this last guy did something that upset me. I was angry. I always think my actions through. Lash out or pretend it didn't bother me. Well, I chose to lash out and tell him it was unacceptable. He didnt think it was a big deal and apologized. But I couldnt let it go. Well, he didnt talk to me much the next few days. Then I just kept on and on. He told me I was coming off obsessive. Oh wow, I was.... I then started trying to fix it because I was obsessed over the situation and wanted to make it right. However, I was coming off "creepy" his words. Well, he ended it and I have been going crazy because I can't fix it. I know it shouldn't care about his opinion because I apologized and tried to explain why I was acting that way.
I then started thinking; why am I so crazy? I finally started reading more about co-dependency and I was amazed of how much this controls my life, feelings, actions and thoughts. I hate it because I don't know how to stop. It has made me very depressed. I always thought I was such a controlled person and to find out I am out of control.  I've ordered some self help books. There are not any support groups in the area. So, I'm on my own.