aaahhhhh i just want to scream and rip her head off, where the fuck does she get off treating me like a piece of dirt.one minute she is cold with me the next she is like she used to be, having a laugh and a joke, what do i keep doing wrong. right at this moment i wish i could say this was my girlfriend at least then i could understand it but she's not, she is just someone i am working with. i feel a close bond with this women and she has shared some of the most trying time's in my life, but now she just feels cold. maybe i don't understand people very well but i would hope that i did not treat people this way i know that at times i can be very irratating but i do try and explain myself. maybe i'm just really bad at knowing the people i care about. maybe i just deserve what i get........i was right i can never let my gaurd down, to many people get hurt.
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You probably didn\'t do anything wrong. Sometimes when we are stressed we lash out at the people we are closest to, because they put up with it but that doesn\'t make it right! Communication is the most important thing in any relationship...being upset and not talking about it, in my experience, makes things fester - try to explain how she is making you feel. Really hope things work out. Take care xxx
i did do something wrong, i destroyed all the trust she ever had in me. now she doesn\'t care if i live or die and to be honest i don\'t blame her, should have learnt by now that when the barrier\'s come down people just end up getting hurt. best thing is not to let anyone get to close, that is the only way to protect them from me
It\'s hard, I know, really really hard to let someone get close, to become vulnerable and risk getting hurt or to fear that you might hurt them.
Learning to trust someone with your secrets and your pain will be hard but take your time and remember that you can\'t decide for someone else what they think or how they should react! You tell them the reality, the rest is up to them. Jo, you are worth as much care and protection as anyone else...please don\'t be so hard on yourself. BIG HUGS!