So far my W and I are coexisting pretty well together.  I say that because we are pretty much just friends right now.  Our 16th wedding anniversary is coming up on the 30th.  We'll see what transpires in the days to come before this really cool date we have planned.  I hope we're more than just friends during this date.
I am in a good place at the moment, and I think she is as well.  Our MC says to take the pressure off each other, do not have sex for a month or so.  Go ahead and play, fool around with each other, stuff like that.  But no sex.  (For me - frustrating as hell!)  But this will releive pressure in the bedroom and start to bring us closer to each other in bed - the location - without pressure to have intercourse.
Will this work, so far it has.  I just need to keep my sexual desires for her to myself for now.  And everything will move together; hopefully.
I'll let you know if it works OR NOT!  :)