im watching monster in law & i can so relate.  nothing has happened since the talk on the phone that ended w/her telling me that i didnt love her son.  i find myself expecting and like afraid whats gonna come next.  we really havent had any contact.  that saddens me some b/c i feel it shdnt be that way. but it is.  im having some trouble dealing w/reality.  maybe w/o that drama 2 concentrate on I now am able 2 look at me & my marriage. and maybe it was easier 2 blame her.  we r affected by our parents but they r not us. and we can choose 2 do things dif now that we r adults.  do i just concentrate on the pluses & ignore the bad. and say oh wow things cld b so much worse.  thank my lucky stars that i have this wonderful man.  so what he only has sex w/me 1-3x /month.  so what he doesnt share much...isnt that typical w/most men?  hey he isnt cheating. right.  hes not an alcoholic or drug addict.  but is that settling?  i guess not so much. i mean dont we overlook things about the people we love?  the bible says 2 prefer each other.  how much is enuf?