Im so  frustrated right now.   I feel that my h is so busy addressing everyone elses prob b/c he doesn’t wanna address his own.  Last night he came home from wrk ate dinner and then ran off 2 men’s meeting…and then drives off 2 jersey 2 help someone else.  I am in trouble. Our marriage is in trouble & hes helping everyone else. And now up early 2 run off 2 the church 2 again help someone else. And now he wont answer his phone.  He sd a few minutes and here we r an hour later.    And then I feel bad b/c I didn’t answer the phone last night. A friend of mine works my last nerve. I love her, but she is so negative and argumentative sometimes that I don’t want 2 talk 2 her.  So I found out her grandmother died. I didn’t answer when she called.  I was going through my own stuff.  And although I know that I have a right 2 not answer my phone I feel bad that I was not there 4 her.   When I describe my husband I describe him as distant and emotionally unavailable.  He sd that he doesn’t want 2 change.  Accepting this is hard 4 me.  It closes doors in my mind.  We wont grow 2gether. We wont get closer. This….how things r…this is it.  But it frees me to take care of myself….cause I havent been.  I need 2 be independent of him.  Getting a job will help w/that.  I guess our sex life will stay the same.  Cause w/this divide bet us I wont feel much like getting romantic.    Im so angry.  I feel cheated.  I thought I was marrying my best friend and I feel like I got a boyfriend.  A superficial relationship.  Not a soulmate at all.  He sd he wants me 2 understand, but he doesn’t wanna share. Im afraid that he feels 4 me like his mother feels 4 me.  Its  a wedge.  U tell me that u don’t share neg feelings w/me……i feel like im settlingim not getting all i wnt.....is it enuf?i dont want a divorce....itll b more trouble than we have now....but i am so saddened