i dont know what to do....im so tired all the time..im prob depressed...the kids ar on my last nerve...they always need...they always want...they always wine and fuss....i have 2 secert shopper jobs to do tday..and i really pref not to take the kids b/c i can get in and out so much faster w/o them...but no...i had no one to look after them..so i gotta take them with me...them in a store..all 3...it just takes 4ever...this one is cryoing...this one needs to go to the broom...this one is bickering and screaming at that one.....and lately the oldest one has been trying me....and the middle on is learning from her...the 11.50 that the job pays is starting to seem not worth the hassle...alone...the job will take 10-20 min...but with them it cld take a half hour...i feel like i nvr get away from them...am i expected to be connected to them all the time? how can i be that and make money? maybe i shd just drop it and just b a homemaker...everything is suffering now..im stressed...the house is a wreck...im not doing well at anything...i cant make the money i want to make...i havent been fixing dinner....im all around beat.... and i dont feel like im helping at all
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when I had little ones, and I had to go shopping, I would look at each one square in the eye, and told them that 1. We are going shopping for X. Nothing else, not candy, not toys, not colouring books, We are shopping for X. 2. There is no whinning or fussing, no screaming or moaning, you will have quiet indoor shopping voices 3. You will not give mother grief. If we can get through this shopping with out fussing, whining moaning or complaining then there will be fun and treats when we get home. (and then I would think of something like make them milkshakes or if it looked like they were behaving, then I would get a bucket of ice cream) but you have to look square in the eye...with the one, I had to do \'nose to nose\' (hehe) and later on I found out that it terrified the one into good behaviour. And you talk in low, commanding tones. Don\'t let them whine into you not doing this job..I wish I had a job to shop!!!
LL
I forgot to mention, you have to get down on their level to do this...like I said the eldest told me a couple of years ago that it really scared him into behaviour and all I did was get close to them, and get nose to nose with that particular one. hehe!!!