tmorrow is my bday and i have a feeling that my husband just will do nothing 4 me.  i want him to go out of his way.  make my fav dinner, buy a card, a balloon.....just something special out of the ordinary.  i made a special dinner 4 his bday and he felt special...why wouldnt he want to do the same 4 me?  i dont even expect him to remember...and im not gonna remind him...if he forgets im not gonna say a word.  im tired of expecting him to be what he apparenmtly doesnt want to be.  we're still having money prob and i feel like im trying so hard to make more money or borrow money when need be whatever...i feel lik hes not doing anything.  he makes the prob worse...he spends money we do not have on bullshit like pizza.  hell fill the gas tank when we could get less...and when he does these things we get bank charges that then eat up the money we do make.  i feel like im just making money to pay the bank charges.  when i make money it just seems like it applies to the neg instead of adding money to our income.  then so he goes to buy a pizza with his acct right he tells me he has the money...he left the receipt from the atm in my car and it sd -20.70. which means he lied...did he lie on purpose...was he mistalken?  eitther way he lied.  i mean damn did he need pizza that much?  i bought groceries.  i bought snacks...we have plenty of food.  tmorrow i have to pay for isis camp for the next 6 wks and i do not have the money and hes so concerned with having pizza?  i feel liike im dealing with a child. and then to add insult to injury....he then bought a full tank of gas...so that's 2 bank charges...if he was gonna do that then why not take out enuf cash and do bnoth...he just doesnt think at all...and what bothers me about him messin up his acct is that hes still gonna take money from ous to fix the prob so im still affected.  my friend told me tht i need to train him...hes a grown ass man why shd i have to train him?