prob with hubby...his mother seems to enjoy badtalking me....steve and i went to counselling w/our pastor....he promised that he wld just tell his mom not to come over unannounced...thats minor...just respectful....anyway she has yet to do it...its bn months...fri she came over unannounced...i wasnt here...she had a prob with the housekeeping...badtalked me in front of my children...then sunday she wanted me to bring zora over to visit w/her...steve was going somewhere, but it was nearby...i told him that if he wanted her to go that he wld need to take her b/c i didnt feel like being bothered with his mother....he called her and told her that zora was asleep and that i wldnt b bringing her...steve gave her my cellphone number b/c she asked for it to convince me to bring her...well she apparently left some mess prob nasty on my voicemail...i was unaware of any of this until wednesday. i was hot!!!!! how dare he give her my cellphone number...and how dare she talk bad of me in front of my children. so that's where we r...he asked me if i was mad at him...im not but very disappointed...i feel like he lied to me and our pastor and i feel that he is not protecting me from the ridicule of his mother. it makes me sad. funny thing is if she had not called me on wednesday i wld not have know anything...she called to apologize...telling me that i was right to take zora home when she was sleep...i didnt know what she was apologizing for...and then i noticed the vm on my phone and that they were from her number....the fact is i am the mother...and if i dont want her to come vis u right no for whatever reason and her father (ur son) agrees then thats it. she doesnt get that she has no power here...she has no say except that my hsband keeps giving it to her. he still doesnt know what hes gonna do...he says that he didnt lie; that he will say something...i ask him when and he still has no answer. i told him that i will no longer hold my tongue...if hes not gonna stand up for me, then i will do it myself. im tired of sitting by and letting someone abuse me...thats what it is: abuse. i wont go into what shes done, but it is most certainly abuse.